"She sleeps through the night"...Oh DH...

[candelaria80]

My DH is a GREAT father. Loving, very hands on etc., but sometimes... Today we were talking to a friend and of course the dreaded question was asked "is she sleeping through the night?" and before I could come back with my usual, "not really", DH chimes in with "Yeah, she is sleeping through the night, right?" Let me just say, she is not sleeping through the night, at all! He is though All I could do is laugh, but geeze man!

Anyone else have a well meaning, but slightly or occasionally clueless partner?

BTW - "clueless" meant with much love and laughter, not snarky or naggy.

[maptome]

"Man, she slept like a rock last night." -My clueless DH

[Hannah'sMommy]

That's too funny, and I totally see how that could happen. My DH is actually on the opposite side, someone will ask how DD is sleeping, and he'll say "not that great." Which of course is true sometimes, but most of the time I'll tell him that she is sleeping great, only waking up 2 times a night (after she'd been waking up 3-4 or more times or being difficult to get back to sleep after waking). Or I remind him that she sleeps great compared to other babies who wake up every hour. So inevitibly (sp?), she'll start sleeping terribly right after he says that! I just think it's so funny how our partners have a different take on things when they get to stay in bed most if not all night

[Katielady]

Ha! I'll wake up some days, and be like, "What was up with DD last night? She woke up so many times, and then she was up from like 2-4..." and he had no idea and slept through the whole thing. The whole thing that was happening right next to him as he peacefully slumbered. (I do take her out though if she goes into her "it's the middle of the night, but let's party!!!" routine.

Seriously though, I think it's a hardwired evolutionary thing- we are wired to wake with the babes, they are wired to sleep through the night so they're rested for the next day's hunt. And I'm glad of it; I think DH would be far more opposed to co-sleeping (which he's only barely on board with as it is) if he were awakened as often as I am.

[artgoddess]

When DS was about 4 months old, and still waking every couple hours all night to nurse I had somewhere to go and DH was sleeping in, after being up watching TV or something all night. So I woke him at around 10 am to tell him I needed to get in the shower he had to take care of his son. And he groaned at me,

"oh come on babe, I only got like 6 or 7 hours of sleep."

I was like, "Really!!??? you mean in a row?" He immediately knew he said something stupid.

[zinemama]

Honestly, I can't imagine that happening. My dh knew full well that our baby didn't sleep through the night. Because he changed the night-time diapers.

[kittywitty]

Originally Posted by artgoddess

When DS was about 4 months old, and still waking every couple hours all night to nurse I had somewhere to go and DH was sleeping in, after being up watching TV or something all night. So I woke him at around 10 am to tell him I needed to get in the shower he had to take care of his son. And he groaned at me,

"oh come on babe, I only got like 6 or 7 hours of sleep."

I was like, "Really!!??? you mean in a row?" He immediately knew he said something stupid.

Priceless. I love it when dh pulls the same thing. Especially when I'm up with a 2.5 yo who has to climb on me and do gymnastics all night while nursing every 20 minutes.

[Jaesun's Dad]

Let me just say, she is not sleeping through the night, at all! He is though

Um ... guilty :-) DP isn't working right now and sleeps in late in the morning (technically ... afternoon) I usually go to bed early with our son and if he starts to fuss she'll come in and take him for a feeding but she's up late watching tv while we're sleeping. Then I wake up early in the morning to go to work and those two stay in bed (I change his diaper on my way out the door and get my good morning hug from him which I look forward to more these days than my morning cup of tea). On the weekends I get up earlier too while she (and DS) sleep in. That's my time to play my violent video games ... um ... I mean *catch up on the housework* ... ;-) DP is really great about letting me sleep though since she knows I get up early. The sleeping in shifts thing works great for us right now. Of course when he starts needing less sleep we'll probably need a new plan :-)

[curvyred]

I'm the guilty party now that DS is older (almost three.) I was up with him during the nights when he was a babe, and woke to every peep. Now . . . I sleep right through. He doesn't wake up every night any more, and usually there's an early morning wake-up because he has kicked off the blankets. I don't hear it. But I'm also a shift worker, so there are nights I'm not even there.

I have, however, told DH to feel free to elbow me and I'll be glad to get up and go help DS, I just plain don't hear it!

With babe #2 due in a couple months though, I'm sure my mama ears will be tuned for every little snort again.

[Novus]

DS starts the night in the crib and I bring him back to bed when he wakes up, usually at about 3 in the morning. There have been several nights when DS will wake up, I'll get him and bring him back to our bedroom, nurse him, toss, turn, and finally fall asleep, only to have DH wake me 30 minutes later saying, "Hey, it's 4 in the morning and the baby's still asleep...shouldn't you wake him up and feed him?" Um. (a) The baby is 11 months old. If he decides to sleep through the night, I'd be throwing a party the next day. I would not be waking him up to feed him. And (b) See the snoring person in the bed between us? That would be the BABY.

[mamadelbosque]

Ha! Yeah, thas my DH too sometimes. DH had *no* clue how much DS1 woke up till DS2 was born and it was his job to take him back to bed - he seriously was like 'sinc when does he wake up this much? Somethings up, this is just wierd...' and I could just roll my eyes and say 'yeah right. welcome to *my* world.' DS1 did finally start sttn on a regular basis a couple months ago ~30-33 months

[Abraisme]

Yup, my DH thinks that we both get the same amount of sleep because we're both in bed the same amount of time.. I had to remind him the other day that I'm up 4 times.. Ha!

[Katie T]

My DH doesn't even try to answer those kinds of questions because he could sleep through a train, instead he just looks at me waiting like he is curious to know the answer as well lol. Men I tell ya, sometimes I wish I could fall asleep as fast and sleep as hard as them.

[akind1]

I always tell DH when he gets up (around lunch time) how the night went. That way he is prepared when we get asked questions Half the time he doesn't even realize if DS is in bed with us or not - which is why when DS is, I keep one hand on DH to make sure DS has space.

The only times DH was aware how often DS was awake or nursing was the first week or so when we both were up all the time, and the one night DS had a bad bout of gas and alternately screamed and nursed and coughed (Post nasal drip). gotta love our guys!

[hildare]

nothing to add, just to say that this thread had me cracking up.

[transylvania_mom]

when ds was two and sleeping in his room, I used to think he was sleeping through the night until dh said he saw him coming to our room, NURSE, and go back to his room to sleep. I didn't remember anything in the morning.

[laohaire]

Boy, I got it good. Yes, I did all the nursing but if there was anything OTHER than nursing - like trying to rock her to sleep (omg he spent thousands of hours doing that) or changing her or whatever - that was DH.

And then when she just turned 3 and STILL nursing every 1.5 hours at night, I snapped and moved to the guest bed. Now DH is 100% responsible for DD at night. All night.

BUUUUUT. I can see my DH or myself having said she sleeps through the night even back in the day when she didn't. Because saying she didn't seemed to invite a lot of unsolicited advice and judgements about how we were doing things!!

[caiesmommy]

Dh's morning routine consists of "No way?!? They were not up THAT many times!"

Umm yeah! Dd woke at 12, ds had a nightmare at 1, dd woke up at 230 ds woke up at 4 thinking it was morning dd woke up at 5, ds woke up at 6 ready to start his day..so YEAH they WERE up that many times

DH MAKES ME

[Norasmomma]

Originally Posted by zinemama

Honestly, I can't imagine that happening. My dh knew full well that our baby didn't sleep through the night. Because he changed the night-time diapers.

Mine too, he also got up with DD when she'd have her 4 am wake up call, he'd give her a bottle EBM and let me get some rest for the day because he'd be gone for very long periods of time and I had kinda a rough time when she was a baby.

[Comtessa]

Originally Posted by Novus

DS starts the night in the crib and I bring him back to bed when he wakes up, usually at about 3 in the morning. There have been several nights when DS will wake up, I'll get him and bring him back to our bedroom, nurse him, toss, turn, and finally fall asleep, only to have DH wake me 30 minutes later saying, "Hey, it's 4 in the morning and the baby's still asleep...shouldn't you wake him up and feed him?" Um. (a) The baby is 11 months old. If he decides to sleep through the night, I'd be throwing a party the next day. I would not be waking him up to feed him. And (b) See the snoring person in the bed between us? That would be the BABY.

YES! This is us!
*wiping tears from my eyes and snorting hopelessly* - I'm so glad I'm not the only one experiencing this!