"She sleeps through the night"...Oh DH... - Page 2

[hakeber]

DH does this too...what's worse is when he says "You're feeling ill, I don't have to work tomorrow so I'll get up with dd if she wakes and I'll look after DS when he wakes up."

So I THINK I'm going to get to sleep, and then the baby wakes up and I nudge him and he's like "oh, she'll go back to sleep."

ummmm no, she won't, and in about 10.5 seconds she's going to be HUNGRY and the bottle of ebm will still be cold and you will still be sleeping, and she will be screaming, you !

And so I have to get up anyway, and calm her down and nurse her back to sleep while he passes back out into a coma.

Then DS wakes up and pounces on all of us and He says "just ten more minutes, pal, just ten more...zzzzzzzzzz"

So I wind up getting up with him, making him breakfast, going back to feed DD and then like four hours later he'll stir with the baby gnawing on his nose and say "gosh, they slept well."

No. No they didn't. And neither did I.

But I'm so glad YOU did.

[Quinalla]

DH asks me how she slept, because he usually has a good idea of how many times I got up, but not much beyond that. At least he knows it though! I don't mind him getting his sleep though, it doesn't help me to have him get up too, but yeah, when he complains about being tired I just say "Me too." and leave it at that even though I am x 10000 inside.

[tzs]

Originally Posted by hakeber

DH does this too...what's worse is when he says "You're feeling ill, I don't have to work tomorrow so I'll get up with dd if she wakes and I'll look after DS when he wakes up."

So I THINK I'm going to get to sleep, and then the baby wakes up and I nudge him and he's like "oh, she'll go back to sleep."

ummmm no, she won't, and in about 10.5 seconds she's going to be HUNGRY and the bottle of ebm will still be cold and you will still be sleeping, and she will be screaming, you !

And so I have to get up anyway, and calm her down and nurse her back to sleep while he passes back out into a coma.

Then DS wakes up and pounces on all of us and He says "just ten more minutes, pal, just ten more...zzzzzzzzzz"

So I wind up getting up with him, making him breakfast, going back to feed DD and then like four hours later he'll stir with the baby gnawing on his nose and say "gosh, they slept well."

No. No they didn't. And neither did I.

But I'm so glad YOU did.

yep!!!!

[Hannah'sMommy]

Originally Posted by transylvania_mom

when ds was two and sleeping in his room, I used to think he was sleeping through the night until dh said he saw him coming to our room, NURSE, and go back to his room to sleep. I didn't remember anything in the morning.

Too funny! I'm glad I'm not the only one with a clueless DH! He does help out a TON though, especially when I'm particularly tired or frustrated with DD and her wakings.

[Lillitu]

in order for us to get some sleep, my DP and i now sleep in separate bedrooms. i take the first shift- co-sleeping and breastfeeding til about 4 AM. then he takes the second shift til 8:30-10 depending on what day it is, co-sleeping and feeding with a bottle.

this arrangement has meant more sleep for both of us, although he still sleeps too soundly on his shift sometimes.sometimes i have to go in there and say, "WTF"?

[candelaria80]

So funny...happy I am not alone!

[StrawberryFields]

When asked, "Is he/she sleeping through the night?" dh usually responds, "Well I don't know about the baby... but *I* sure am!!" That usually gets him some chuckles from the audience and a smack on the head from his wife. He always follows it up with a positive remark about breastfeeding, though. He's a great dad but unless he grows some boobs, he's of no use to me OR the baby at 2 AM.

[Katie T]

Originally Posted by transylvania_mom

when ds was two and sleeping in his room, I used to think he was sleeping through the night until dh said he saw him coming to our room, NURSE, and go back to his room to sleep. I didn't remember anything in the morning.

That is too funny!

[colsxjack]

I am a DH, my DW breast feeds exclusively and we co-sleep. Our DD is 9 months and wakes 5-6 times a night. She used to only wake 2-3 times. But now she has gotten into a routine of waking to nurse for a minute and going back to sleep.

I end up waking up about 1/2 the times she does on average. Although I am just woken for a minute. There really isn't anything I can do. My wife just pulls her close and nurses her and they both fall back asleep.

When DD was younger and we were newbie parents I would get up with them to keep DW company while she sat up in bed and nursed. I would also change the baby and rock her or sooth her. Then she got more comfortable with the technicalities of nursing while laying down. We stopped changing the baby during the night unless there was a leak and everyone of us has fallen into a groove.

When asked that question I tend to say she sleeps better than she does because I dont like the comments or advice or everyone telling me how their kid sttn by 2 weeks old. My DW answers with the worst case scenario. I can only imagine she does this because she likes to let people know it's hard and exhausting to parent a baby.

[candelaria80]

Originally Posted by colsxjack

I am a DH, my DW breast feeds exclusively and we co-sleep. Our DD is 9 months and wakes 5-6 times a night. She used to only wake 2-3 times. But now she has gotten into a routine of waking to nurse for a minute and going back to sleep.

I end up waking up about 1/2 the times she does on average. Although I am just woken for a minute. There really isn't anything I can do. My wife just pulls her close and nurses her and they both fall back asleep.

When DD was younger and we were newbie parents I would get up with them to keep DW company while she sat up in bed and nursed. I would also change the baby and rock her or sooth her. Then she got more comfortable with the technicalities of nursing while laying down. We stopped changing the baby during the night unless there was a leak and everyone of us has fallen into a groove.

That's our situation too, I really don't mind. My DH takes her for an hour or two in the morning to allow me to catch up. To be honest, when DH was waking with us in the beginning, it annoyed me.

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

I remember my ex saying things like this, he thought just because he hadn't been woken up must have meant that they hadn't woke up

[confustication]

Heh- we have two under two, but the older one doesn't nurse at night. He does wake, and he can't *stand* feeling wet, so he demands a change at about 3 am. That's all on DH- if I got up to do that, it would wake the 7 month old sleeping on my arm and permanently nursing.


DH knows that DS 2 doesn't sttn, but since we cosleep and nurse all night it doesn't wake him. DS 1 wouldn't wake him, but I'm pretty liberal with the kick in the bum when he doesn't wake right away to take care of him. He would sleep through a trainwreck without some... ahem... guidance.

Oddly enough, it works for us. We split the night parenting and while I wake more, he has to actually get up, while I can usually stay in bed.

I assume we'll sleep in a decade or so.

[StrawberryFields]

Originally Posted by confustication

Heh- we have two under two, but the older one doesn't nurse at night. He does wake, and he can't *stand* feeling wet, so he demands a change at about 3 am. That's all on DH- if I got up to do that, it would wake the 7 month old sleeping on my arm and permanently nursing.

This is what we have always done too. I did all the nighttime parenting when ds was born. When dd1 came along dh took over with ds and I took the baby. Now that dd2 is here dh does both older kids and once again I'm just responsible for the baby.

[bri276]

Originally Posted by hakeber

DH does this too...what's worse is when he says "You're feeling ill, I don't have to work tomorrow so I'll get up with dd if she wakes and I'll look after DS when he wakes up."

So I THINK I'm going to get to sleep, and then the baby wakes up and I nudge him and he's like "oh, she'll go back to sleep."

ummmm no, she won't, and in about 10.5 seconds she's going to be HUNGRY and the bottle of ebm will still be cold and you will still be sleeping, and she will be screaming, you !

And so I have to get up anyway, and calm her down and nurse her back to sleep while he passes back out into a coma.

Then DS wakes up and pounces on all of us and He says "just ten more minutes, pal, just ten more...zzzzzzzzzz"

So I wind up getting up with him, making him breakfast, going back to feed DD and then like four hours later he'll stir with the baby gnawing on his nose and say "gosh, they slept well."

No. No they didn't. And neither did I.

But I'm so glad YOU did.

DH used to try that stuff- don't stop nudging! Nudge firmly! Nudge with a foot lodged between butt cheeks firmly yet gently if necessary! they only get away with it if you let them.

[newmomroxi]

I laughed at your thread title and could have honestly written the OP. My DH was this way as well. He did his share of the work but slept so soundly at night that he hardly heard DS. DH said that line so often that once I jumped in and said, NO, HE DOES NOT SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT!! DH no longer offers that information. :-)

[Bena]

Originally Posted by artgoddess

When DS was about 4 months old, and still waking every couple hours all night to nurse I had somewhere to go and DH was sleeping in, after being up watching TV or something all night. So I woke him at around 10 am to tell him I needed to get in the shower he had to take care of his son. And he groaned at me,

"oh come on babe, I only got like 6 or 7 hours of sleep."

I was like, "Really!!??? you mean in a row?" He immediately knew he said something stupid.

aarrggg..!!! This exact same scenario thas happened at our house too!
I'm glad I'm not alone!

DH has bee really good to take over nighttime duties for a few hours when he can see that I'm just at wit's end. BUT he always needs a 2-3 hours nap the next day!!!

[candelaria80]

Originally Posted by Bena

DH has bee really good to take over nighttime duties for a few hours when he can see that I'm just at wit's end. BUT he always needs a 2-3 hours nap the next day!!!

Ha, the nap! That's always the best.

[tzs]

i actually left the house this morning while the babe was napping, and she's a 45 minute type of gal. and although i told him he was in charge, dh was napping as well.

as i walked away i thought to myself, geez, i guess i must be ok with CIO if i left them both napping like that, he'll never wake up when she does!

i can;t be sure what exactly what happened in those 1.5 hours but when i got home they were both awake and happy. it just might be possible that push comes to shove, a man could hear a baby cry....hmmm....

[mambera]

Originally Posted by colsxjack

Then she got more comfortable with the technicalities of nursing while laying down. We stopped changing the baby during the night unless there was a leak and everyone of us has fallen into a groove.

That's where we are. I cosleep with the baby and she dream feeds through the night. Honestly I am not sure how many times bc I barely wake for the feeds. I think she has about a 5-6 hour stretch with no nursing, then she starts feeding about every half hour to an hour until she wakes up. I do not feel sleep deprived at all. I feel fine.

DH has slept in a separate room for about 3 months now - his idea, he gets more sleep that way. I feel a bit sad about that but since he prefers it there's not much to say.

When asked that question I tend to say she sleeps better than she does because I dont like the comments or advice or everyone telling me how their kid sttn by 2 weeks old.

Exactly this. Actually I can say my kid sttn without lying because she does! - as I mentioned she dream feeds. (I leave out that detail bc I don't feel like getting into a conversation about cosleeping.)

I notice people still want to give me their crappy advice though even AFTER I have told them that dd sttn. I think people just want to relive their baby days and put their two cents in. I just smile and nod.

[atlantafemme]

just wanted to add that DP and I are a same-sex couple and DP has also slept through the night from day 1 regardless of what our LO was up to, so I don't think it's a biological/evolutionary difference.

DP is very helpful the rest of the time but lordy, I've had to stop myself from quite a few smart remarks when DP complains of tiredness. At least our LO has finally quit waking hourly...