first and foremost, I'm so sorry for your loss
I found your post on this site and registered to try to ease your mind about the dream. I do not read this site or belong to it other than to say the following: I am a Christian woman, and while I am not sure where you stand in terms of religion, I want to offer you, from a Christian perspective, why I believe that your dream should not weigh on your mind at all
As I said, I am not sure of your religious beliefs.... my point here is not to offend anyone, simply to offer a Biblically-based opinion, to take or leave. God is, by definition, LOVE.... I don't believe God is accusatory and condescending (when I read what you dreamt those words immediately came to mind), rather, He seeks to build us up not fill us with dread and anxiety. NOTHING is your fault, don't believe that dream for a second.