Originally Posted by spughy
Maybe I'm weird, but I can't see any real reason (beyond cultural bias) that breasts can't be fun, sexy, aesthetically awesome, and food. I mean, we get all swizzly over celebrity chefs making sexy-looking food, right? Little bit of asparagus dipped in chipotle hollandaise, anyone? Mmmmm... it's food AND it's sexy. Breasts? Same deal. I don't see why we have to compartmentalize pleasure the way we do.
I don't think it's as much to do with breastfeeding (or not) as it is to do with Puritanical residues and general uptightness.
Thank you for this! It has often felt a bit strange to me when people say "BF isn't sexual", often in the context of NIP.
Well, of course it is! It's part of our womanly (reproductory) cycle - and it's designed to promote positive feelings on both ends. All the elements of procreation have some kind of "fun factor" to them: let's hope all of us had fun conceiving
, I've heard of (and experienced) "near-orgasms" during pushing in childbirth, and most mothers (if given the chance) will experience a rush of euphoria when seeing, hearing, holding, smelling, and nursing her baby for the first time. BF (after mastering the initial learning curve) should also be a mutually pleasurable experience.
(Mind you: I'm not saying something "is wrong with you" if BF didn't feel all that good to you. I'm generalizing a lot here, and I'm consciously disregarding complications like cracked nipples etc.)
Maybe you hit the nail on the head here: our culture seems to feel a strong need to "compartmentalize pleasure" (quoting you) - innocent children and "madonna moms" here, sexy women (potential lovers) on the other side of the fence?