I have been trying to research my options for vbac... I have one of the few providers in the State who do VBAC's. Recently I found out he is going to be gone for about 9 days about 10 days before I'm due. My DS was 17 days early so if this baby is the same I will deliver with one of his back up docs, which pretty much gaurantees another c-section.
Last week I had an idea and called the local birth center on a whim and they do vbacs... So, I went in and met with the midwife yesterday. I was really excited and have been researching the insurance options etc. I hadn't made a decision yet but was leaning towards the birth center and I totally have my dh's support on whichever decision I choose. I filled out a release of info for the midwife just in case, and have my next appt. with my OB on monday so I wanted to talk to him then about my concerns/options/etc. I figured he would say that delivering in the hospital is the best option, cause that is what he does, but I assumed we could have a discussion about it. So, today his (my ob's ) office called me and I figured it was to reschedule my appointment on Monday. No, it was his Nurse calling to "chew me out" for even considering a vbac at the birth center and any complications would be catastrophic, and they were scared that the midwife even does them there at the birth center and blah blah blah. I felt like a naughty child who had done something wrong and was being chewed out. The conversation did not end well, I just said that my plan was to talk to the Dr. and then I would make my decision. I was really upset cause I felt stupid, ill informed and scared. I went home from work for my lunch and my dh was phenomenal and supportive and wonderful. He assured me whatever we decided would be best and the nurse's feelings were probably just hurt or maybe she was having a really bad day. She is normally so nice it completely blind-sided me.
Anyway, thanks for reading... I guess I feel better now, but angry that I feel she is trying to use fear to make me go the hospital. I am now dreading the appointment on Monday, but I need to go and talk to the Dr. I now feel more uncertain about my choices than ever... grrrrr...
Last week I had an idea and called the local birth center on a whim and they do vbacs... So, I went in and met with the midwife yesterday. I was really excited and have been researching the insurance options etc. I hadn't made a decision yet but was leaning towards the birth center and I totally have my dh's support on whichever decision I choose. I filled out a release of info for the midwife just in case, and have my next appt. with my OB on monday so I wanted to talk to him then about my concerns/options/etc. I figured he would say that delivering in the hospital is the best option, cause that is what he does, but I assumed we could have a discussion about it. So, today his (my ob's ) office called me and I figured it was to reschedule my appointment on Monday. No, it was his Nurse calling to "chew me out" for even considering a vbac at the birth center and any complications would be catastrophic, and they were scared that the midwife even does them there at the birth center and blah blah blah. I felt like a naughty child who had done something wrong and was being chewed out. The conversation did not end well, I just said that my plan was to talk to the Dr. and then I would make my decision. I was really upset cause I felt stupid, ill informed and scared. I went home from work for my lunch and my dh was phenomenal and supportive and wonderful. He assured me whatever we decided would be best and the nurse's feelings were probably just hurt or maybe she was having a really bad day. She is normally so nice it completely blind-sided me.
Anyway, thanks for reading... I guess I feel better now, but angry that I feel she is trying to use fear to make me go the hospital. I am now dreading the appointment on Monday, but I need to go and talk to the Dr. I now feel more uncertain about my choices than ever... grrrrr...
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Mama, I'm sorry she did that to you. 
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