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4/15/10 at 9:14am
I've wondered how that was going, Katie--if there were any emotional repercussions of the donor conception post-birth, but I wasn't going to bring it up. (I was on the TTC board with Katie.) I think this is an issue that people can have no matter how their DC's are conceived. My daughter looks just like my DH's family and not at all like mine, and sometimes that bugs me. Sometimes when I'm angry with her I think it doesn't help that she looks so much like them. I mean, I love them, but they are not my family, you know? Now my new DS seems to be looking more like my side of the family, particularly my dad. And when he cries and looks at my with Dad's eyes, I think I feel a little extra protective of him. I think as long as I'm aware of it there's no problem, but his looks are totally going to work in his favor for me. Anyway, I think that in any case kids go through stages where they look more like one person or another, and how they look as adults has as much to do with their experiences (and nutrition) on the way as their genetics. You'll love Teo and feel like he's the best-looking kid (or adult) you've ever seen, just because he's yours. Which is how I feel about my DD even though she is the spitting image of my MIL.
Ugh, on the subject of who the baby look like thing.. so my first everyone said looked like my hubby. I never really saw it too much. Our second, I do see my hubby a lot. This has really bummed me out over and over again. It doesn't help that everytime my MIL sees our children she speaks about how much they look just like my hubby and not really me... AND THEN.. the other day at church a woman said that Evan looked like me and boy was I excited and thankful!! So then later I was talking to my friend and my MIL and told them what the woman said and how I was so excited! Guess what my MIL said??! She said, "You know what Becca, I think she was lying!" I nearly died and definitely cried it out later... why is it so emotional dealing with the looks of our children?? Weird...