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Well, genetically speaking Teo is half of you, maybe he'll favor your side of the family. Not to mention you never know how the genetics will play out. Caleb looks NOTHING at all like how Shane looked at this age, and they have the same parents!
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I've wondered how that was going, Katie--if there were any emotional repercussions of the donor conception post-birth, but I wasn't going to bring it up. (I was on the TTC board with Katie.) I think this is an issue that people can have no matter how their DC's are conceived. My daughter looks just like my DH's family and not at all like mine, and sometimes that bugs me. Sometimes when I'm angry with her I think it doesn't help that she looks so much like them. I mean, I love them, but they are not my family, you know? Now my new DS seems to be looking more like my side of the family, particularly my dad. And when he cries and looks at my with Dad's eyes, I think I feel a little extra protective of him. I think as long as I'm aware of it there's no problem, but his looks are totally going to work in his favor for me. Anyway, I think that in any case kids go through stages where they look more like one person or another, and how they look as adults has as much to do with their experiences (and nutrition) on the way as their genetics. You'll love Teo and feel like he's the best-looking kid (or adult) you've ever seen, just because he's yours. Which is how I feel about my DD even though she is the spitting image of my MIL.
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I've wondered how that was going, Katie--if there were any emotional repercussions of the donor conception post-birth, but I wasn't going to bring it up. (I was on the TTC board with Katie.) I think this is an issue that people can have no matter how their DC's are conceived. My daughter looks just like my DH's family and not at all like mine, and sometimes that bugs me. Sometimes when I'm angry with her I think it doesn't help that she looks so much like them. I mean, I love them, but they are not my family, you know? Now my new DS seems to be looking more like my side of the family, particularly my dad. And when he cries and looks at my with Dad's eyes, I think I feel a little extra protective of him. I think as long as I'm aware of it there's no problem, but his looks are totally going to work in his favor for me. Anyway, I think that in any case kids go through stages where they look more like one person or another, and how they look as adults has as much to do with their experiences (and nutrition) on the way as their genetics. You'll love Teo and feel like he's the best-looking kid (or adult) you've ever seen, just because he's yours. Which is how I feel about my DD even though she is the spitting image of my MIL.
I don't mind DS looking like DH, but I don't think I could handle DD looking like my MIL! Yikes! So far DD looks like me as a baby, so I think I'm "safe".
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Oh, and in our family, DH's Greek quarter is totally dominant in the kids. We thought Athena might have favored me, but she also looks like a spitting image of his great-aunt when we see the childhood pics from Greece. Caleb is the only one who looks even a little like me.
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nak. I love my baby...but he looks like my mil and bil that I hate...but he IS good looking, at least.
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True. And even some things as simple as the hair cut he chooses, the style of glasses, or if he wears any facial hair will make a difference in how he looks...
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Katie-- some really good looking people do not have the best looking children-- hello Bruce and Demi? Also, my DH is HOT and his dad and mom? Not so much. It's all a crap shoot and how the genes turn out when put together. I think your Teo is adorable
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Genetics are fascinating to me...maybe because my kids are such "mutts" that it is really a crapshoot what traits they will end up with...
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same here! Everyone in Israel is commenting on my daughter's freckles. Aparently this is not common in the culture. /shrug.
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In a good or bad way Jul?


A little celebration here...I was 198 at weigh in this morning - so finally back down under 200 lbs! I still have about another 30 lbs. to go to my goal weight, but it is so nice to be back under that 200 mark again.
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Ugh, on the subject of who the baby look like thing.. so my first everyone said looked like my hubby. I never really saw it too much. Our second, I do see my hubby a lot. This has really bummed me out over and over again. It doesn't help that everytime my MIL sees our children she speaks about how much they look just like my hubby and not really me... AND THEN.. the other day at church a woman said that Evan looked like me and boy was I excited and thankful!! So then later I was talking to my friend and my MIL and told them what the woman said and how I was so excited! Guess what my MIL said??! She said, "You know what Becca, I think she was lying!" I nearly died and definitely cried it out later... why is it so emotional dealing with the looks of our children?? Weird...
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Ugh, on the subject of who the baby look like thing.. so my first everyone said looked like my hubby. I never really saw it too much. Our second, I do see my hubby a lot. This has really bummed me out over and over again. It doesn't help that everytime my MIL sees our children she speaks about how much they look just like my hubby and not really me... AND THEN.. the other day at church a woman said that Evan looked like me and boy was I excited and thankful!! So then later I was talking to my friend and my MIL and told them what the woman said and how I was so excited! Guess what my MIL said??! She said, "You know what Becca, I think she was lying!" I nearly died and definitely cried it out later... why is it so emotional dealing with the looks of our children?? Weird...
Aww, your MIL is just thinking of her son's baby face, which she is more familiar with than your baby face.
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No one thinks my kids look like me at all. Once I was in the mall with DD1 and someone was fawning over how beautiful she is, then said (with disbelief) "Is she YOURS?!?!?!" As if such a beautiful child could not possibly have come from me. Some people have such nerve! Hmph!

More recently, I brought DD1 to one of my last midwife appts and the midwife commented, "Boy, she doesn't look like you at ALL!" Then when she saw DD2 at my 6 week check-up she said, "I guess your kids just don't look like you, huh?"


Not that it matters, because people's comments are rude either way, but both daughters are 100% genetically mine!! And aside from the obvious stuff (they are blond and blue-eyed and I have dark hair and dark eyes) I actually do think they resemble me in terms of their features.
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