didn't circ - fielding questions from family - Page 2

[hakunangovi]

Originally Posted by AbbieB

DH simply said, "Have you seen the size of his penis? You want to make it smaller?"

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That is SO FUNNY - I would love to have seen the look on her face !!!

[MaterPrimaePuellae]

My mom (who did choose to or allowed my brothers to be circumcised) asked if were planning to circumcise DS. I had been expecting this question and wasn't sure how I would respond... but in the moment, it just seemed like SUCH a crazy idea that I'm sure I looked horrified and said, "He is SO tiny- I cannot IMAGINE handing him to someone as saying, 'Here, cut off a part of his penis! That's awful.'" That was the first and only time she's asked. I'm still wondering when I'll have that conversation with MIL; it's possible she and my mom have already discussed it. I would LOVE to have heard that conversation...

I'm not sure when/if I'll even have a conversation about proper intact care. We live far away, so it may not even need to be discussed.

[mattemma04]

I would have said the same thing.Your mum did what she thought was best at that time.She'd like you to circ to validate what she did otherwise she will need to come to terms with having circumcised her child.It is a very difficult thing to deal with.You alter the sexual life for your child forever,so you want to believe it was a good thing like you were told it was.

[DoulaVallere]

Originally Posted by MaterPrimaePuellae

My mom (who did choose to or allowed my brothers to be circumcised) asked if were planning to circumcise DS. I had been expecting this question and wasn't sure how I would respond... but in the moment, it just seemed like SUCH a crazy idea that I'm sure I looked horrified and said, "He is SO tiny- I cannot IMAGINE handing him to someone as saying, 'Here, cut off a part of his penis! That's awful.'" That was the first and only time she's asked. I'm still wondering when I'll have that conversation with MIL; it's possible she and my mom have already discussed it. I would LOVE to have heard that conversation...

I'm not sure when/if I'll even have a conversation about proper intact care. We live far away, so it may not even need to be discussed.

If there's a chance they will ever change your baby's diaper (or giving them a bath), you might want to bring it up. My DH's grandma offered to change DS1 once when he was very tiny, and I don't know that we had even said anything about his intactness before that, but as she was changing him she said "So what do I do with this to clean it? Just skin it back and wipe?" and I pretty much FLEW across the room saying NOooooooooooooooooo..... You can imagine how scared I was that she was going to try to retract him! Anywho, for people who have never had to deal with an intact penis before, I think it's just a good idea to give pointers. I made sure to say something to our daycare back when I was working, and to the women in the nursery at church, etc...anyone who might be changing their diapers.