Rant - Page 2

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

Im so sorry Lincolns father is still acting like this, thyra. So not fair!

[Super~Single~Mama]

Found the church! The lady I talked to was really nice, and she's going to send me a certificate.

[MissLotus]

That is so wrong! I'm sorry he snuck around behind your back like that and wasn't even going to tell you about your own child... the child he would not be able to have baptized if it weren't for you!

A few times I suspected my ex would do the same thing; he's Catholic (though a barely practicing one) and I am not. I would be pretty ticked.

But as you do go through the legal system, be SURE you mention this. I have physical custody, and share legal custody with my ex, which theoretically means we both have input on educational, health and religious stuff. So considering your ex does not have primary custody nor primary decision-making, he didn't even have the right to do that. A very good reason to go for full physical AND full legal custody of your child - you can point out that look, he didn't even include you in a major decisions about your child. So I hope his action bites him in the butt big-time, ultimately.

Plus, when you do find the church, I would let them know their policies to do that without the mother's consent was really uncool. (I know nothing about Catholic rules, but I know they do annull marriages sometimes... can they annull baptisms if it turns out both parents did not give consent?)

[RollerCoasterMama]

Originally Posted by thyra

Found the church!

Hooray!! That was quick!

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by MissLotus

That is so wrong! I'm sorry he snuck around behind your back like that and wasn't even going to tell you about your own child... the child he would not be able to have baptized if it weren't for you!

A few times I suspected my ex would do the same thing; he's Catholic (though a barely practicing one) and I am not. I would be pretty ticked.

But as you do go through the legal system, be SURE you mention this. I have physical custody, and share legal custody with my ex, which theoretically means we both have input on educational, health and religious stuff. So considering your ex does not have primary custody nor primary decision-making, he didn't even have the right to do that. A very good reason to go for full physical AND full legal custody of your child - you can point out that look, he didn't even include you in a major decisions about your child. So I hope his action bites him in the butt big-time, ultimately.

Plus, when you do find the church, I would let them know their policies to do that without the mother's consent was really uncool. (I know nothing about Catholic rules, but I know they do annull marriages sometimes... can they annull baptisms if it turns out both parents did not give consent?)

The church teaches that if one parent consents then its ok. I feel so cheated.

[Satori]

Originally Posted by thyra

The church teaches that if one parent consents then its ok. I feel so cheated.

That is just wrong Will you be able to get a copy of the cert? I would make sure to then bring it to court. This is a major thing! I would be furious if this was done to my children, you can bet your arse that person would not be seeing my children again if the were so disrespectful to me as to initiate them in a religious ceremony that I wasn't even invited to much less had the matter discussed with me.

[trinity6232000]

I'm not Catholic, but my Dad's side is and I grew up attending church with them a lot. I'm surprised that the church would baptise a child without the Mother or at least a call to the Mother. When my Godson was baptised they asked me to get two , since I'm not recommendations Catholic, to become his Godmother. Plus his Father (who isn't Catholic either, but attends church with his family) had to sign papers stating that he would raise this child and all future children in the Catholic church.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Here's the clincher. IT'S MY FAULT!!!! Wait - how is it MY FAULT that YOU FAILED TO TELL ME THAT MY SON WAS BAPTIZED??????

Oh yeah, that order of protection prevents you from communicating with me about my child. I forgot.

That's his excuse anyway. B/c he has an order of protection against him, he can't invite me to important events in my son's life, and can't even INFORM me of them. Ugh.

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

You are very quietly and strategically documenting all this stuff right? Of course you are. You are one smart cookie. And now you are a pissed off smart cookie.

[homewithtwinsmama]

I am pretty surprised that the church didn't require something stating that you give permission or were at least informed about it. My own denom. would never have done this. So sad, my babies baptisms were very important to me. If you belong to a non-infant baptism denomination then this one won't count anyway.