Maturing daughter still sleeping with father - Page 3

[Theia]

She is in the US.

Jyotsna, I hope you have been able to get some help for you and your DD in this situation.

[Freedom~Mama]

Wow Mama I don't even know what to say but I can't even begin to imagine the worry and stress you are going through. I am so sorry this is happening and I hope you get some help soon to figure out a way for him to get less visitation.

[Arduinna]

I can't believe that professionals know of this and haven't stepped in and stopped his unsupervised visits. This is not normal. I'd do anything and everything even to the point of fleeing and living underground to get her away from him. Something is very wrong with this situation.

[Satori]

Originally Posted by Arduinna

I can't believe that professionals know of this and haven't stepped in and stopped his unsupervised visits. This is not normal. I'd do anything and everything even to the point of fleeing and living underground to get her away from him. Something is very wrong with this situation.

Problem with this these days its near impossible to go underground unless you plan on doing the Amish thing and living in the wilds of Canada alone or something and for the OP its not really possible with 2 of her kids having/being special needs.

I do agree though that something needs to be done but she's walking a fine line, deny visitation and risk losing the kids to him. I'd be singing like a bird to CPS though and finding a new therapist but that may not be possible for her if only one takes her insurance. I know there's only 1 around here that does and he time shares with all the clinics so even if you try going to another clinic your still going to get stuck with him

[SleeplessMommy]

How are you doing, Jyotsna?

I think an lawyer could really help... a really good lawyer that is. Or some written complaints to cps. I am really worried about your kids.

[Jyotsna]

Surprise, Surprise, my daughter came home the other day and said she slept on the sofa cuz her daddy said she could.

Thank you for all of your comments. I'm working hard on the situation to change it.

[Bad Mama Jama]

i am glad that there is some progress being made. this situation sends up red flags for me as well.

[hotmamacita]

Sexual abuse is not merely physical. There is a fantastic book with great information within and it its bibliography. It is titled, "The Wounded Heart" by Dr. Dan Allendar. I highly recommend it.

This must be so hard for you, mama! Trust your instincts.

[Jyotsna]

I'm trusting my daughters words..she says she doesn't want to visit there and cries when it is time to visit.

She is seeing the therapist anyway, since they are doing it for free now. I'm surprised that they are seeing her for free, but they felt bad that she would not be able to express herself because ex said they couldn't bill insurance anymore. Funny thing, but they are still charting too. : )

DD told me she will talk to the therapist about her feelings. I don't know if she really will, since she is afraid, but again, I trust if she is afraid enough, she will tell the therapist what is going on. She also told me she trusts him (therapist), which is good.

[MissLotus]

It's nice that they'll see her for free. I wish they would feel badly enough for her to intervene and call CPS. And meanwhile I hope you seek new legal counsel because it's terrible to think of a child, even at that age, dreading to see her father so much. There must be a reason for that, and no amount of talking to a therapist will actually change the fact that she has to go. But legal intervention is a real possibility.

[cycle]

Originally Posted by MissLotus

It's nice that they'll see her for free. I wish they would feel badly enough for her to intervene and call CPS. And meanwhile I hope you seek new legal counsel because it's terrible to think of a child, even at that age, dreading to see her father so much. There must be a reason for that, and no amount of talking to a therapist will actually change the fact that she has to go. But legal intervention is a real possibility.

ITA and I don't understand why they are not calling CPS. They are mandatory reporters. Something seems off with me about that. They need to call CPS and you need to get some kind of legal help.

[MsChatsAlot]

I am continuing to hope that what is in the child's best interest will come to light and prevail!

I'm keeping all of you in my thoughts.