Any good comebacks for rude remarks? - Page 3

[lunarlady]

People are crazy. We're expecting another girl, and the standard remarks are "was your DH so disapointed?" and "So maybe you'll try for three then?" Umm...pregnant lady here...working on this one. And I'm thrilled for the sista power, so they arn't hitting any sympathetic nerves.

The best thing I've come up with so far is "DH is thrilled. He always wanted to be surrounded by beautiful ladies who hang on his every word." You could maybe flip this for boys and say "Well, I always wanted to be the girl with the full dance card. I figure sons are my best bet. I'm glad it's not a girl, I don't like competition."

I thought (but didn't actually say) "Oh, it's not mine." Just to watch the expression on some stranger's face. And since I know somebody who's a surrogate, I thought that would be pretty humorous. Only works with strangers, however.

Other ideas I've had (but can't use) are:
"We'll get right on that. Any pointers?"
"Next time I'll eat more fruit, that should do the trick." (Just to confuse them)
"Girls are so catty anyway, I can barely handle having myself in the house."
"Since we didn't want to pay for a college and a wedding, we're stoked."
"We really wanted identical triplets, but decided to space them out a bit."
"I figure practice makes perfect."
"I don't really like change."
"Why don't you write that down for my baby book?"

So many fun comebacks! If only I wasn't too nice to use them.

[SumnerRain]

I have three boys and then a little girl and I am SO sick of gender issues. I got the standard "I'm sorry" when #3 was a boy, to even some clerk at walmart asking my KIDS if they are bummed they were getting a brother, because a sister would be so much better!! UGH! I used to tell people we were trying for a baseball team and were fortunate that it wasn't co-ed.

Now I get "finally got your girl huh?" and I just give them a dumb look and say "huh?" and move on. Or just say "we were going for four of a kind, and she messed up our winning streak" and roll my eyes.

Now with #5 on the way... I don't even know what I am going to say.

[triana1326]

Originally Posted by CallMeMommy

I know exactly how you feel, I had absolutely no preference as to boy or girl, but now I'm kinda glad it's a boy because I know it'll drive my MIL crazy. She actually refused to discuss boy names with me during my last pregnancy because "we don't want a boy!"

We get a lot of comments about how DH must really want a boy. Actually, DH wants another girl - he says it'll be cheaper since we already have all the clothes, etc. I'm secretly tempted to wanta boy simply because it'll piss off my MIl - all of DH's brothers have had girls and there's no one to carry on the family name. It'd tick her off to no end to have the family name carried on by me and my "spawn", as she's put it in the past...

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by Lyndzies

Look at their belly (if a woman) and respond with "and how about you? What are you having?"

*snicker*

Fight rude with rude, I say.

I love you, Lyndzies!

Somebody actually did this to me recently. I was wearing a baggy empire cut sweater, and she looked at my belly and said "are we expecting someone new soon?" I just looked at her and said..um..NO. And walked away. HA, it's fun to make THEM embarassed.

Seriously, why do people feel the need to comment? First it's "when are you getting married?" then it's "when are you having a baby?" then it's "when are you going to have another one? What are you hoping for? blah blah blah..." I'm going to be a hermit with my hubby (and our little ones?)

[triana1326]

Literally 2 minutes ago, I used the "yes, we know what causes it, and we're getting damn good at it" line. One of the customers at the bookstore I work at on Saturdays (who isn't too prudish or offendable), just noticed the very large belly bump and said "Seriously?! You're knocked up again?" Mind you, this is our second child....I'm sure he was rather drunk though, and he laughed hysterically after I said my comeback...definitely a good line to use on those who aren't easily offended!

[OkiMom]

When we found out DD2 was a girl we had some really rude comments. I got tired of it, I LOVED the fact I was having another little girl. I ALWAYS wanted a sister when I was growing up and now my oldest would have a sister to play with. Eventually I started responding with "Actually, I think a boy would look kind of silly in my daughters dresses.." or "We are trying to totally outnumber "DH" and then we can pin him down and use him to practice our fingernail painting" or "I think Heavenly Father wouldn't appreciate you saying that" (I used this one to people at church who would make rude comments).
DH started with "Who says girls can't fish and camp?" when people would make a comment to him. Hes a Marine, I was a Marine (got out to take care of my baby) so people will make comments to him not realizing he married a Marine. Other responses were "I didn't know girls can't shoot guns, my wife is a better shot than I am." "What do you mean girls can't wrestle/do martial arts, my wife can kick my butt" etc.
I told DH I would love to have another baby and have it be a girl. My girls are so close and my oldest is asking for another sister so she has another playmate.

ETA: You could always go with them making them feel bad route. Ive lost several pregnancies so if its a family member being a jerk Ill go with "Actually, its a blessing I could carry this one to term." Which reminds them of our loses and how jerky they sound harping on something as silly as gender. Honestly, a healthy baby is a blessing no matter what gender it is.

[mataji4]

Love this thread!!! I too am SO sick of gender issues!!

I had a boy, a girl, two more boys and am expecting another boy. So 4 boys and 1 girl. People say THE rudest things right in front of my kids, like you've all heard from other posters, and I am sick of it!! I'm not going to be nice anymore. This is the first baby whose gender we've known before birth, so people assume we don't know. Yesterday a woman said "Oh, I hope it's a girl." and I said "It's a boy." She looked very awkward. I should've said "Why? What do you have against my boys?"

I really really like "Um, did you mean to say that outloud (in front of my kids)?" I'm going to just use that from now on. I really don't want my boys to feel bad or something or think b/c of other people's comments that I am disappointed that I have boys! And I don't want my daughter thinking she's better than her brothers or something!

I will admit, I love little girl clothes...all the dresses! That and that my daughter won't have a sister, are the only negatives. But whatever!!! I love my kids, all of them. It's so obnoxious that people don't get that!!

[outlier]

My favorite response to gender comments that I read on a different thread a while ago was something like: "My happiness is not based on what's found between my baby's/children's legs."

[blizzard_babe]

Originally Posted by Lyndzies

Look at their belly (if a woman) and respond with "and how about you? What are you having?"

*snicker*

Fight rude with rude, I say.

Heck, I think that'd be extra good if it were said to a man.

Originally Posted by babycatcher12

I was out with the three boys a week ago and someone made some comment about "oh my goodness 3 boys! I'll be praying this one is a girl for your sake." My DS said "we're excited it's another boy!" The idiot stranger said "Wow! It must be awful to have to keep up with all those boys!" And walked away. I was at a complete loss for words. My DS looked up at me with tears in his eyes (he's 7) and said "Mom, are boys really that bad?"
Seriously! I'm going to use the "Do you realize you just said that out loud and MY SONS can hear?"

Holy crap. There's rude and then there's... stupidly cruel.

Originally Posted by triana1326

Literally 2 minutes ago, I used the "yes, we know what causes it, and we're getting damn good at it" line.

Originally Posted by outlier

My favorite response to gender comments that I read on a different thread a while ago was something like: "My happiness is not based on what's found between my baby's/children's legs."

My mom had to use something similar when pregnant with my youngest sister (they had all girls; youngest sister was unknown sex until she was born). She was a "surprise," and people tried to console my mom by saying, "Well, at least this way you guys have a chance at getting a boy!" She said something like, "We'll love our kid whether it pees standing up or sitting down. Plumbing just isn't that big an issue for us.

[Georgetown HB Mom]

Originally Posted by Georgetown HB Mom

I am so here with you, except on the opposite side. We have two girls. Baby #3 will make an appearance at any moment. We don't know the sex but we have been bombarded with "it has to be a boy" comments. It is driving me crazy! People are so consumed with what is between the baby's legs and that is it. I am secretly almost hoping that this baby is another girl, just to show them that we would be thrilled with another girl. My friends and I attend dinner together twice a month to catch up etc. and I finally had to get pretty snarky with them to get them to shut up about this baby being a boy. I was so tired of hearing: "your DH NEEDS a boy," "you are carrying like you have a boy attached to you," "you need some testosterone in that estrogen filled house of yours," and on and on. My mom who also attends dinner with us actually pulled the other ladies aside and said we are not going to badger Lisa anymore about the sex of the baby, if you want to ask her about the pregnancy or how she is feeling that is fine but quit harping on the sex.
Then at my baby shower one of the ladies actually had the nerve to write on her card to me, "your baby is a boy." WHAT?

Lisa

Well I had my 3rd baby on April 16th. It's another GIRL!!! YEAH!!!
And the rude remarks continue. The first thing my MIL said when my DH called to tell her the baby was a girl was "well are you going to try for a boy?" Hello.. I just gave birth and all natural at that and I can tell you the last thing on my mind at that point is pushing out another baby. DH told her that we were probably done. I then called a friend of mine the next day and she said congratulations and then asked if DH was disappointed. I said no and she said oh come on even just a little bit? Umm, no why would he be disappointed with a beautiful, healthy baby girl? I can't believe people sometimes.

Lisa

[Funny Face]

"Are you going to try again for a girl?"

"No. We're just going to raise this one as a girl."

[phoebemommy]

Oh, thank you, ladies, for this thread. I'm due with #2 in a few weeks and I've felt so petty that my top reasons for wanting a second boy are:

1) I don't want an avalanche of pink clothes dumped on me, and

2) MIL and crowd want it to be a girl.

MIL and her mom and sisters are just FROTHING for a girl. DH's cousin just had a boy, and they had been so determined it was a girl they were all calling it a girl, and "she". I'll be fine with a girl personally, but I'm just finding it offensive (irrational, I know, but I'm pregnant) that everyone is all opinionated about what should come out of MY uterus. It's baggage, I think, from when they were all up in my business about why I shouldn't have a homebirth. And all the other things they've been busy bodies about.

If it's a boy, I'm going to tell them I did it on purpose, that I'm building a boy band. If it's a girl, I don't know. If they gush, I might have to think of something snotty to say.