I asked for it...

[maptome]

I gained 40 pounds while I was pregnant and I was afraid I would never lose it. Afraid I would gain a few pounds each time I had a baby. So, I told DH to tell me if I was getting fat or I needed to keep losing weight, and...he did! Last night, when I was getting out of the shower, he says, "You need to go biking more." DD is 9 months now, and maybe he thought it was the right time to be straight with me but, ouch! I know I asked for it, but it hurts. Especially because I own a scale, and I know that I have a 3-5 pounds to go. On the other hand, I think I will go biking today with DD in tow.

Anyone else have a hurtful/helpful/"I asked for it story"?

[sewaneecook]

DH and I keep each other in check in the same way. I don't typically get offended because he has my health in mind and it's something I know anyway (but try to pretend isn't there!). I'd much rather DH tell me I shouldn't wear a particular outfit than have others look at me and think "who is she trying to kid?!"

[caiesmommy]

I wish my dh would be like that. I know he would over a dangerous amount of weight but iM carrying an extra 6-10 right in my stomach since having dc and he'll see me struggle trying to do up my pants when I complain he says "who cares, its just a little fat" I think "I WANT you to care" But he truly doesn't care..that's just my dh


My aunt on the other hand...we were at an all you can eat restaurant and when I said I was going to get dessert she "kindly" reminded me to get a small plate and only bite sized things...then she split everything on my plate with me..so my 3 1 bite desserts were cut in half..gotta say it helped

[time4another]

Well-

I asked for the same exact thing you did, but never got it and I didn't (partly couldn't due to a health issue) do anything about it until 55Lbs later...

I think you're lucky, and he did put it in a very nice way too.

[Gena 22]

Just had one of those moments!

I was getting ready in a hurry for a weekend away, and TMI WARNING! was bending over naked to reach for something. DH walked in the room and said "Oh!" and quickly left. I thought it was, "Oh!" in a good way since I've been on a diet and lost some weight recently. Turned out it was an "Oh!" in a not so attractive way. Bad skin. I was mortified.

But I guess I'd rather know and do something to correct it.

But mortifying!

[RosemaryS-F]

Once my DH said to me, "I bet that if you didn't watch it, you could get a weight problem." At the time he told me, I actually did have a burgeoning weight problem. I took it as a hint, intended or not. That was YEARS ago, and I still remember it, so it is very interesting how things stick in the mind. I think your DH was pretty tactful, but it caught you off guard.

[chiromamma]

DD was 8 or 9 months. I pulled on a pair of Pre-preg shorts. I was able to zip and button them and was rather pleased.
I said, "Look! I can get my size 8 shorts on! But I still feel like a cow."
DH's deadpan response: "Well, I've always liked cows."
He ducked to avoid the shoe that came flying across the room.

[RosemaryS-F]

Originally Posted by chiromamma

DD was 8 or 9 months. I pulled on a pair of Pre-preg shorts. I was able to zip and button them and was rather pleased.
I said, "Look! I can get my size 8 shorts on! But I still feel like a cow."
DH's deadpan response: "Well, I've always liked cows."
He ducked to avoid the shoe that came flying across the room.

Ha! They just don't seem to get it. How could they, really, but REALLY!!!!

[Kreeblim]

Originally Posted by chiromamma

DD was 8 or 9 months. I pulled on a pair of Pre-preg shorts. I was able to zip and button them and was rather pleased.
I said, "Look! I can get my size 8 shorts on! But I still feel like a cow."
DH's deadpan response: "Well, I've always liked cows."
He ducked to avoid the shoe that came flying across the room.

Years ago, my sister casually mentioned that she had gained a few pounds and felt fat. Her boyfriend replied "It's OK, I like fat chicks." completely seriously.

To this day Mr. Clueless probably has no idea why she got so upset.

[JayGee]

Once, many years ago, I was walking ahead of DH and he called out, "Hey honey, you want some fries with that shake!"

[RosemaryS-F]

Originally Posted by JayGee

Once, many years ago, I was walking ahead of DH and he called out, "Hey honey, you want some fries with that shake!"

yikes! love it.

[Happiestever]

I had been showing DH some pics of the kids and he pointed to one and said "Is that you?" which it wasn't but the fact that I resembled them really got to me. And my ds asked if that was another Andraea about a woman in her 50's, thankfully I was 8 months pregnant when both these questions popped but yeah it was a shock. Now I have no baby in my belly to blame the weight on. I wish I only had 5-10 lbs to lose.

[calebsmommy25]

Originally Posted by JayGee

Once, many years ago, I was walking ahead of DH and he called out, "Hey honey, you want some fries with that shake!"

That seriously just made me laugh out loud...That sounds like something my dp would say.