I love what I do; couldn't be a better fit, but between the hours, the commute and the incredibly high expectations, I have very little left for my children. I have cut back on all my volunteering and that feels bad--if you don't volunteer you lose your connection and your influence in the community. I am so busy multi-tasking that 1/2 the time I don't notice what my kids are wearing on their feet (last week my older dd wore flip flops to church; it was 55 degrees out; ugh) so will I notice when they are bigger issues (sex, drugs, depression)?
Just saying that if you feel you can't juggle it all and there is any way financially to work pt or ah or not at all--follow that path if you can afford it.
I am trying to figure out what changes I can make so I live my values (being invested in my children and their school and community) while staying afloat financially.