I just realized I never reposted on this thread--KD1 thought about it, and decided that his age (51), combined with his HIV status, and his desire to have kids of his own, would make it very difficult for him to donate. Basically, he's always wanted kids, and would want to be very involved, but he's afraid that he'd get so involved in the kids' lives that when/if he got sick (or old, given that we're 27 and 28), it would be very hard on the kids. And, he had come to terms with never having kids, and would have to change his life a lot to feel like he could do this (and be as involved as he would want to be), and he's not sure he's OK with that.
So we moved on to another KD--one who is HIV-.
So we moved on to another KD--one who is HIV-.
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