Hi there new to forum/advice needed

[loriann]

Hi everyone, I found this forum while doing some research on homebirth. I had a *dreadful* first hospital experience with my son Drake. (Induced to fit doctors schedule, epidural, forceps etc.) I am wanting to try a much more calm pleasant route this time around. My first experience left me bitter and traumatized by the whole birth experience. I am much older this time around, (son is 14). I am meeting with a midwife tomorrow and plan to have a homebirth. Was just wondering if anyone could give any words of encouragement or advice? My partner and I are having to deal with a lot of flack from nosy family members. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.!

[JamieCatheryn]

Welcome! I loved working with my midwife and gestating and birthing in peace on my terms. I chose home because I didn't want *anything* the hospital was selling. This way there's help in place on the off chance you need it, support in however you want to do things, no hassles, just havin a baby. Such an intense process, nobody needs it made harder than it ought to be.

[Paige, CPM]

Offer to your family to read PUSHED by Jennifer Block and/or see THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN (the Rikki Lake documentary...you can get it from Netflix) and then offer to discuss it with them after they do. If they are not willing to become informed then please don't discuss it with you. Or, just ignore the ignorance. If it is someone really close then watch the docu with them and then invite them to come to a prenatal with you to meet the monster midwife, LOL, they will get it.

Some people just love drama and to them this is a perfect opportunity, but the rest of us know that it is a perfectly sane and normal option! Hugs and good luck!

[caned & able]

This is your baby, your body, your business, and no one needs to give you permission.

Just do it.

Educate yourself and have a great birth because you deserve it. No one else matters.

[*MamaJen*]

Hi and welcome! This forum is a great source of information. There's a sticky on top the hoembirth page with lots of good resources for planning a homebirth.
Also, the Due Date Clubs are really fun. Since this is a natural parenting website, a lot of the other women in the due date club will be planning midwife-attended births.
I wish your story of a bad hospital birth was less common, but unfortunately, that's the reality of most women's experiences in the U.S. nowadays. I had a completely beautiful homebirth and I'm so grateful for it. Congrats on your pregnancy, and best wishes for a wonderful homebirth.

[loriann]

Thanks for all the kind words I am definently looking forward to my birth this time. I met with my midwife this morning and feel 100% better about everything!