my exdh left me when i was pg with ds. it took us almost 7 yrs to get divorced. that finally happened about a yr and a half ago. one month after i was served, ex's fiancee became pg, so my ds now has a 16 mo old brother.
back in dec, ex lost his job and is now on unemployment. he was recently dx with a mental illness and so is refusing to go back to work while he waits out the disability application process. they are living on probably less than $200/wk unemployment plus $600 or so per month that her oldest ds gets in SSI.
ex hasnt paid cs since december. that added to some medical bills he's owed me since 2008 adds up to over $2500. but somehow, they just had a weekend away for their 1st anniversary and ds has come home and told me about going to see a movie and 2 separate visits to restaurants. with 2 adults and 6 kids, thats not cheap! we're talking $150 for dinner and movie for 7 or 8 ppl. thats one wk worth of cs. they have internet, cable, and a cell phone. theres money coming in from somewhere, its just not finding its way to the state disbursement unit.
i've faxed my order to unemployment, but its been a month and they havent garnished yet. i dont qualify for food stamps or medicaid bc of my savings, but without cs my savings are dwindling. ds1 gets a pathetically low amt from his father, so ds2's larger cs has always equalized the difference.
now ex is telling me he's going for a mod to reduce his weekly amt, and to try to have the current past due eliminated rather than turned into arrears that would be paid of over time.
and to top it all off...ex's wife is pg again. her #6. i've known her for years, and i know all of her kids and adore them. her kids and my kids are bff's. but if ex isnt planning to pay, this will just clinch it. my poor ds knows his dad isnt paying, and he also knows that he gets very little time while his baby brother sees ex every day. he loves his brother, i make sure to tell him how great it is to have a baby brother, and i display pics of them together in his room, but i just know underneath the excitement of having a new little sib, ds is smart enough to knwo what this will mean for ex's time and finances. it sucks, and i just had to vent this. thx for reading
back in dec, ex lost his job and is now on unemployment. he was recently dx with a mental illness and so is refusing to go back to work while he waits out the disability application process. they are living on probably less than $200/wk unemployment plus $600 or so per month that her oldest ds gets in SSI.
ex hasnt paid cs since december. that added to some medical bills he's owed me since 2008 adds up to over $2500. but somehow, they just had a weekend away for their 1st anniversary and ds has come home and told me about going to see a movie and 2 separate visits to restaurants. with 2 adults and 6 kids, thats not cheap! we're talking $150 for dinner and movie for 7 or 8 ppl. thats one wk worth of cs. they have internet, cable, and a cell phone. theres money coming in from somewhere, its just not finding its way to the state disbursement unit.
i've faxed my order to unemployment, but its been a month and they havent garnished yet. i dont qualify for food stamps or medicaid bc of my savings, but without cs my savings are dwindling. ds1 gets a pathetically low amt from his father, so ds2's larger cs has always equalized the difference.
now ex is telling me he's going for a mod to reduce his weekly amt, and to try to have the current past due eliminated rather than turned into arrears that would be paid of over time.
and to top it all off...ex's wife is pg again. her #6. i've known her for years, and i know all of her kids and adore them. her kids and my kids are bff's. but if ex isnt planning to pay, this will just clinch it. my poor ds knows his dad isnt paying, and he also knows that he gets very little time while his baby brother sees ex every day. he loves his brother, i make sure to tell him how great it is to have a baby brother, and i display pics of them together in his room, but i just know underneath the excitement of having a new little sib, ds is smart enough to knwo what this will mean for ex's time and finances. it sucks, and i just had to vent this. thx for reading
