mother's of high needs/colicky babies

[remo]

I have a question to mother's of high needs/colicky babies : when does it stop?
My 7-week son is hanging on my boob the whole day. He wants to be held all the time when he is awake.

[sarahsmiles]

Just had to post and tell you to hang in there. My daughter is 3 1/2 and I still remember wondering when it would stop. My son, who is 9 months old, is night and day difference. DH & I were just talking about the difference in the baby months -- nothing would make DD happy, she seemed so angry all the time, no amount of swaddling, slinging, nursing seemed to make the least bit of difference.

I think there are usually lots of threads on MDC for support. It does get better, but it is hard. I remember talking with a colleague whose daughter was in college at the time. She started crying when I told her what I was going through with DD -- she remembered it so acutely 20 years later. But ... DD is smart, funny, independent, and awesome, so I guess it's a good deal.

Get yourself some help and give yourself a break to get away for a bit of quiet!

[BlueWolf]

My high needs daughter is 9 months... still no end in sight. But things have gotten different, if not better, with more mobility. Good luck!

[honey-lilac]

Um, well my son is still spirited but the high-needs part stopped at around... 18 months or so, when he started signing. Until then he just screamed nonstop night and day, self-injured, etc. He was really early with mobility, crawling by about 4 months or so. He started taking maybe a 20 minute nap BY HIMSELF a few times a week, when he was about 6 months old. By about... oh, 11 months or so I had periods of up to 10-15 minutes when I could put him down and he'd entertain himself somehow. Then back to screaming.

It gets better. It takes a while, but it gets better.

[tzs]

7 weeks is still pretty young. they do call it the "4th trimester" for a reason. i think at that age they are all "high-needs." my babe is actually very very easygoing but i remember not knowing when it would ever stop...the constant crying and nursing. not being able to put her down. not napping in her own.

my friend's babe is a couple weeks younger and as a newborn he was even more "demanding" in the coliky sense. but one day around 4 months he just stopped and got happy. he is a super easygoing 6mo.

hang in there.

[MsVyky]

My DD is 6 months and I'm still waiting...


Chiro is helping SO much, though.

[Katie T]

Mine quit being so colicky at about 2 months or so. And they were/are very laid back now so I don't think there is any connection so hopefully you have the same luck. I remember it being so exhausting and I wore my kids in the fitted sling all the time as it helped a lot!

Hang in there is should be getting better soon.

[remo]

Did anybody try dairy free, glutten free diet? Every day I go to bed at 8 o'clock in the morning. He naps 10 minutes maximum and then starts wimpering and crying.

[tzs]

my pal with the more "coliky" newborn went dairy free. she said it worked wonders, "a different baby," although he was still pretty sad. she had also been given a script for reflux which she never filled, and i kind of suspect that it would have helped him even more (it seemed like he had really typical reflux symptoms.) now that he's crossed over to the happy place she can have dairy again. i think it was always intended to be a temporary thing until he got over that 3/4 month hump and it did turn out to work like that.

[JamieB]

DS1 stopped screaming for hours and hours every evening around 4.5 months when I discovered "The Happeist Baby on the Block". He was apparently tired but couldn't fall asleep without a lot of extra help. He was still pretty unhappy in general though, taking forever to fall asleep, couldn't put him down, stuff like that, until about 9.5 months, when he started sleeping through the night. May have been coincidental, but I really believe my poor baby was just soooo exhausted and overtired but he couldn't fall asleep and stay asleep.

[remo]

Originally Posted by JamieB

DS1 stopped screaming for hours and hours every evening around 4.5 months when I discovered "The Happeist Baby on the Block".

How is it different from all other kind of white noise? I use radio for constant white noise.

[JamieB]

Originally Posted by remo

How is it different from all other kind of white noise? I use radio for constant white noise.

It's not only about the white noise. The 5 Ss from that book together is what ade the change. My son went from staying up all hours screaming (which I now know was because he was overtired) to in bed at a decent time. He needed the extra help to switch off and he's still like that some nights.