Originally Posted by NewMom0208
Do you ever feel it would have been better not bringing this little angels into this painful world? It seems there is no decency left.
I know this might be a horrible thing to say, but I feel so bad seeing mine suffer, he doesn't talk yet, so more difficult to help
yes i did. our troubles began when we were trying. later ex told me dd was a 'parting gift' and i told him if i had an inkling it was going to head in this direction i would never have had her.
however i think with anything in life there is sadness and joy at every step of the way - no matter what your circumstances are.
dd at 7 1/2 is finally starting to see why it was better for us to be single parents. how she gained along with the loss. all the things she wouldnt be able to do if her dad and i were together.
part of that sadness is also the growing up process. growing up is painful and anxiety filled for all children - not just children of single parents.
that deep sadness our children feel is a part of their emotional growth spurt imho. and perhaps necessary for that reason.
i have come to look at sadness as not a bad thing. its a deep place of connection with ourselves that nothing else can achieve than sadness.
dd and i hold grieving circles all the time. we have a good cry about things and it feels v. refreshing afterwards. like the grey clouds disappeared and sunlight burst forth.