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post #41 of 106
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Originally Posted by pixiekisses View Post
Little blood on the paper for me just now, so I'm terrified.


I had a week and a half of heavy-ish spotting a little while ago, and it was HORRIFYING. Everything turned out okay, though (baby is alive with an awesome heartbeat and growth). I know that sinking feeling all too well.
post #42 of 106
I kind of avoided this thread for a while, but feel the need to post now.

My first pregnancy ended in a loss around 7 weeks, we immediately got pg again and had an amazing little girl, had two more losses (5 and 10 weeks), then had another little girl. I conceive fairly easily, but have a poor track record when it comes to carrying babies.

Anyway. I was sort of charting this time, and think I o'd around the 28th-29th. My first u/s at 5w5/6d we saw a gestational sac, containing a yolk sac, measuring 5w3d. Not too bad.
Then at my 6w6d/7w u/s we saw a little baby (blob) with a heatbeat. 114bpm. But it was only measuring 6w2d. I understand there's a 2 day margin of error, but 4-5 days seems like too much and I just feel like I'm sitting here waiting to miscarry.

The RE said everything looks perfect, and he's not one to give false hope...

Sorry to be so down, but man, this sucks! Google is not helping in this instance! Seems like things could go either way.
post #43 of 106
pixie ~ I had a bit of spotting today, too. Just a couple of trips to the bathroom with a smudge of pink, but enough to make me scared and nervous. But it stopped and I have come to the conclusion that my sanity will simply NOT allow me to be constipated this pregnancy...TMI, I know, but the only two times that I gave a BM a little push are the two times that I spotted. I think my cervix is just too sensitive. I've been having the OPPOSITE of constipation lately, but I think all of the junk food at work for Nurses' Week finally caught up to me.
post #44 of 106
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Originally Posted by oakparkveggie View Post
I am a little worried, but am trying to remain calm. At my u/s on Monday, the RE said it looked like a possible velamentous cord insertion, but it is pretty early to be sure. I resisted the urge to google until last night and am now wishing I didn't. Nothing is ever easy with me :P I go back in 2 weeks and then see the MFM people for another scan in a month, so should know more by then.
((Hugs)) I just looked up velamentous cord insertion. I'm sorry there's another potential complication in the mix, but it sounds like you have a good team on your side.

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Originally Posted by pixiekisses View Post
Little blood on the paper for me just now, so I'm terrified.
Ugh. Not fun. Sending you lots of sticky vibes. Like PPs have said, there are tons of possible 'innocent' reasons for spotting in early preg. But, yeah, it's an awful feeling to see something on the TP, regardless of why.

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Originally Posted by hannybanany View Post
Anyway. I was sort of charting this time, and think I o'd around the 28th-29th. My first u/s at 5w5/6d we saw a gestational sac, containing a yolk sac, measuring 5w3d. Not too bad.
Then at my 6w6d/7w u/s we saw a little baby (blob) with a heatbeat. 114bpm. But it was only measuring 6w2d. I understand there's a 2 day margin of error, but 4-5 days seems like too much and I just feel like I'm sitting here waiting to miscarry.

The RE said everything looks perfect, and he's not one to give false hope...

Sorry to be so down, but man, this sucks! Google is not helping in this instance! Seems like things could go either way.
I know it's impossible to not worry, but I think things sound good! For whatever reason your dates aren't matching perfectly, BUT the little babe had a week's growth in a week, right? Maybe you implanted a little late, but growth is keeping up with the dates established at the 1st u/s. That's really good news!
post #45 of 106
Thank you, mamas. I knew you would understand. The second I saw it it got harder to breathe. Been a little more, just red drops. I hate this part, being this scared is just horrible. Thank you for your support, just someone who gets it so I don't feel so crazy is great.
post #46 of 106
I'm here-
four losses
m/c 1996 Kelly
s/b 1999 at 35 weeks Loren
m/c 2002 Tess
m/c 2010 Fiona

feel positive about this baby sticking, but worry about birth defects
post #47 of 106
Thread Starter 
(((pixie))) I'm thinking of you!

And welcome, IBCLC. Will you have any testing done to ease your mind, or will that just stress you out more?
post #48 of 106
Sending lots of positive vibes to everyone here who is worrying and spotting !
post #49 of 106
wow, it must be the week for spotting!

I had some on Tuesday morning, called my OB's office and the nurse, who's usually really great, was dismissive. I talked them into betas, so I had one done Tuesday (she said it was in the 30,000s but she didn't give me a number) and another today. hopeful that the number for today is bigger and I can stop worrying.

long story, but apparently I'm gonna need more hand-holding and touchy-feely this time, so I've called the midwives near me and I"m switching
post #50 of 106
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Hey, did I tell you all I freaked out last week and had another ultrasound because I had convinced myself the babies died? And they didn't! They're growing and beautiful and have big strong heartbeats, which is just amazing to me. I have pictures but am too exhausted to scan them in. How sad is that?
post #51 of 106
to those spotting. Man is this stressful!

Congrats annette! That's a wonderful sight.
post #52 of 106
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Originally Posted by oakparkveggie View Post
HOORAY!!! What wonderful news

I am a little worried, but am trying to remain calm. At my u/s on Monday, the RE said it looked like a possible velamentous cord insertion, but it is pretty early to be sure. I resisted the urge to google until last night and am now wishing I didn't. Nothing is ever easy with me :P I go back in 2 weeks and then see the MFM people for another scan in a month, so should know more by then.
There is a blog that I follow that is quite good, and the momma who keeps it has had both of her babies had strange cord insertions, one velamentous and one battledore, both at home with midwives and without complications. You might enjoy checking out her blog and reading about her birth stories and her experiences with that...positive endings to a stressful situation!

Stand and Deliver
post #53 of 106
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Originally Posted by starshine1001 View Post
There is a blog that I follow that is quite good, and the momma who keeps it has had both of her babies had strange cord insertions, one velamentous and one battledore, both at home with midwives and without complications. You might enjoy checking out her blog and reading about her birth stories and her experiences with that...positive endings to a stressful situation!

Stand and Deliver
Thank you!!
post #54 of 106
All of my living children are Rainbow babies.
Dh and i lost our first baby at 5 weeks, then twins at 18-22 weeks, to twin to twin tranfusion, then went on to have 3 girls, in 3 years. After our 3rd living dd, we had 15 months of infertility, then a 5 week miscarriage, a boy at 21 weeks, a boy at 18 weeks, and a boy at 15 weeks, another miscarriage at 6 weeks, another miscarriage at 4-5 weeks, Our miracle baby boy, now 11 months, and another mc at 4 -5 weeks, and now are expecting again.
everyday, i have at least one moment of panic, that i wont have a baby at the end of this. If i get a 5 minute break from nausea, i start to worry. I am afraid all the time. I know this is it for us. It just seems right. So no matter how this pregnancy ends, i dont think i will ever go down this road again. it is so stressful for us.

Sub babies are always filled with emotion, that many dont understand. I remember when my son was born, everyone was crying. I kept saying, over and over again, " i get to keep him?" seems how he was born 30 minutes after shift change, the poor nurses had no idea what was happening, but it was one of the most emotional events of my life. I keep thinking about that day, and praying for a repeat, with this baby.
post #55 of 106
Thanks Annette for starting this thread. We lost our first baby too, at 14 weeks. I was told I'd probably never have children (due to underlying issues). We got pregnant within a year, and had Zane, Bre, Emily, Rachel, Sam, Dan and Ava with no problems. After Ava though, we lost three more. Abigail was born at 18 weeks, Matthew at 17 weeks and Asher at 16 weeks. It seems like I do fine, until after that magical safe 12 weeks. With Nathan, I was on complete bedrest and progesterone until 32 weeks (and then went two weeks over lol!)

So, we're pregnant again, and I'm having some cramping. I'm way paranoid, and I was supposed to have an appointment today to test progesterone, but the girls had history coop today, so I had to cancel. It was their last meeting, so I didn't want them to miss.
post #56 of 106
pixie ~ haven't seen a post here in a few days...are you doing alright? How's the spotting doing?
post #57 of 106
Oh, thank you, I'm not sure how things are. I stopped spotting, and then suddenly bled a little yesterday. And had a little pain, but that could just be "mentally", I didn't have time to think about it and ot went away. And I just really need a break from drama, seriously, it makes me so scared. I shut down communication between my head and my gut/inner self. I can't do it anymore. (Yeah, control freak too, so it'll be back on soon.)
Sometimes I wish I didn't know about little Bean until after 12 weeks, it would still be hard, but maybe a tad easier? Ok, I'm rambling.

AM, I find that totally natural, so how crazy am I?
Glad your babies are fine!

s to everyone who needs it.
post #58 of 106
I don't think I've posted to this thread yet, but we had two losses prior to getting pregnant with dd ~ one at 7 weeks and one at 4 weeks. I have my first u/s tomorrow and I'm terrified that there won't be anything there or that there won't be a heartbeat.
post #59 of 106
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Originally Posted by splath View Post
I don't think I've posted to this thread yet, but we had two losses prior to getting pregnant with dd ~ one at 7 weeks and one at 4 weeks. I have my first u/s tomorrow and I'm terrified that there won't be anything there or that there won't be a heartbeat.
mama! I have an ultrasound tomorrow, too, and I feel the same way. It's almost as if a heartbeat will be the thing that surprises me, I'm sort of expecting not to see one. Sad, but true.

Here's to heartbeats for both of us so we can enjoy!!! What time is your u/s? I'll be thinking of you
post #60 of 106
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Originally Posted by lindsey8 View Post
mama! I have an ultrasound tomorrow, too, and I feel the same way. It's almost as if a heartbeat will be the thing that surprises me, I'm sort of expecting not to see one. Sad, but true.

Here's to heartbeats for both of us so we can enjoy!!! What time is your u/s? I'll be thinking of you
Thank you! Many hugs and good luck to you My u/s is at 2:15. I have to do the whole drink 32 oz of water an hour before, which I've never had to do before, so many having a super full bladder will take my mind off things
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