Both, I guess. We have struggled ever since we married to find a sense of deep connection with a community. We moved back to my home town a year ago to be near family, get out of the city, and be more close to nature but have been even more isolated and stressed here--and have been at a loss of how to find kindred souls to connect to in this rural and more conservative area.
We have some friends who mostly live across the country who are kindred souls and with whom we have talked about living with/near at some point but no one has ever been ready to make the move to the other folk's geographical area. There have been some talk recently about some of them settling near where we are in the next 5-10 years...but I"m just not sure we can stand another 5-10 years of loneliness. So we really need to find some folks here to relate to or we need to make a leap and move to where our friends are even though we prefer this geographical location.
So I guess I"m asking if this place, where we feel a connection to the land (me in particular because its the place of my birth), will also be a place that we can find a human community that will nurture and enrich our lives or do we need to look elsewhere (with our friends or otherwise)