DD wanting to fit in/I'm not sure how to deal with it

[muttmom92]

My DD (5.5) seems easily caught up in what's considered popular and I'm not sure how to deal with it.

I don't let her watch Hanna Montana or i-Carly or the like, but she knows all about them from kids in school. There is a book fair at school and one of the books she wants is about I-Carly.

Do I buy it for her? I know she's just trying to fit in, but I don't want to encourage her interest in that kind of show. This isn't really about I-Carly, but about how to keep her from getting caught up in what's considered popular.

I want her to be an independent thinker, but i also don't want to be a mean mom.

[Autumn Breeze]

at her age, I would just consider it an oppertunity to encourage her to read, buy her the book

As for wanting her to be HER, that is something that is very difficult to even begin to learn at that age, much less in that type of setting. I think most of us didn't learn who we truly were until we were far past the days of elementary school.

Right now, what she's interested in is what other girls her age are interested in. You can still talk to her about what she likes, and keep an open dialogue going.

[4evermom]

She's just developing her social skills. Some kids have a real hard time doing that so be proud she is coming by it easily. It doesn't mean she won't be a free thinker or keep her individual interests.

[muttmom92]

Thank for the reassurance ladies. After I wrote the post, I felt like I was being a little silly about it all. She makes friends very easily which I'm happy about because I was very shy in school. I can just also see in her that she's more of a follower in groups, so I get worried.

I'll try to chill out.