xposting to Family Bed
We coslept (kinda accidentally) with DS from the day he was born, and even though he's now 4 and goes to sleep in his own room, he winds up in our bed almost every morning some time between 4am and 8am. As better-informed parents this time around, we will, of course, be cosleeping with this LO intentionally from the beginning.
My big concern is DS coming to bed with us and smooshing his little bro. DS is very into cuddling and snuggling with Mommy. He still likes to stick his hands down my shirt and rest them on my "ninnies" for comfort (he says, "my hands think dat you are their home", which melts my heart). We've started talking with him about when the new baby comes he won't be able to snuggle as much with Mommy, but I don't know exactly what we'll actually do about it. He's also a wiggle-worm, and we wake to find him in all kinds of weird positions. I've though about the ArmsReach Cosleeper, though I'm not sure if I'll be comfortable with the babe that far from my arms during the night. If it's anything like it was with DS, I was only able to actually get any sleep when he was snuggled up against my breast with my arm all the way around his body. Anywhere else, and I kept waking to check his breathing, make sure he wasn't cold, didn't fall or get stuck somewhere... I've also considered those in-the-bed co-sleepers, but I don't know if that is a good idea or not... maybe just in the mornings when DS comes to bed? But these are both expensive to get and then not use.
What are you ladies with older ones doing? DS isn't a toddler any more, and I think he'll understand pretty well, but I don't want him to feel ousted from our bed. Oh, and DH is a wonderful dad, but a sound sleeper, and sleeps with a CPAP, so dad can't take the babe in the morn. while I snuggle DS, though DS might be convinced to snuggle with dad in the morning? I don't know.
We coslept (kinda accidentally) with DS from the day he was born, and even though he's now 4 and goes to sleep in his own room, he winds up in our bed almost every morning some time between 4am and 8am. As better-informed parents this time around, we will, of course, be cosleeping with this LO intentionally from the beginning.
My big concern is DS coming to bed with us and smooshing his little bro. DS is very into cuddling and snuggling with Mommy. He still likes to stick his hands down my shirt and rest them on my "ninnies" for comfort (he says, "my hands think dat you are their home", which melts my heart). We've started talking with him about when the new baby comes he won't be able to snuggle as much with Mommy, but I don't know exactly what we'll actually do about it. He's also a wiggle-worm, and we wake to find him in all kinds of weird positions. I've though about the ArmsReach Cosleeper, though I'm not sure if I'll be comfortable with the babe that far from my arms during the night. If it's anything like it was with DS, I was only able to actually get any sleep when he was snuggled up against my breast with my arm all the way around his body. Anywhere else, and I kept waking to check his breathing, make sure he wasn't cold, didn't fall or get stuck somewhere... I've also considered those in-the-bed co-sleepers, but I don't know if that is a good idea or not... maybe just in the mornings when DS comes to bed? But these are both expensive to get and then not use.
What are you ladies with older ones doing? DS isn't a toddler any more, and I think he'll understand pretty well, but I don't want him to feel ousted from our bed. Oh, and DH is a wonderful dad, but a sound sleeper, and sleeps with a CPAP, so dad can't take the babe in the morn. while I snuggle DS, though DS might be convinced to snuggle with dad in the morning? I don't know.
