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[eepster]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Turner

This morning she kept saying that there was a ghost, and I said that she must have heard "R" leaving the house, and a couple of hours later she started with this story.

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It sounds like you planted the idea in her head and accidentally created a false memory. I doubt anything sinister happened.

That said, it sounds like you are uncomfortable with BF staying so late, and it does sound like the noise going in and out disrupted your DD's sleep. Next time he comes over just say that he needs to leave earlier since the noise of the door opening gave DD nightmares about ghosts.

[phathui5]

I wouldn't want a friend who is staying with us to have her boyfriend spending lots of time at our house. Doesn't the boyfriend have a place?

[mamazee]

Originally Posted by Linda on the move

I don't think it matters if he went in her room or not, your DD isn't comfortable with him there. He needs to not be there *just because she would be more comfortable that way.* This isn't about what is right or fair or if he is a good guy or a bad guy, it's just so that she can feel safe while she is falling asleep.

He needs to leave before betime at your house (what ever that is).

I agree 100%. She needs to feel comfortable in her house, and discomfort is enough to act upon. And she needs to know that you will take her seriously.

[Kidzaplenty]

Yeah, an easy solution for both you and her. Him not be there after bedtime.

I would not be comfortable with someone in my house after I went to bed (unless DH was awake with them). I would stay up in my room the entire time until they were gone.

[pranamama]

I would believe what your daughter told you happened just like she said it did. Whether the guy had any sinister intentions is up to your gut instincts to figure out.

[NettleTea]

Going along with the thread title - I'd listen to what my instincts were telling me. I do not see myself feeling comfortable in such a scenario (going to bed with someone I do not know in the house).