Trying to convince DH

[*Robin*]

My DH is not really quite going along with homeschooling as yet. He has had many concerns, most of which I have researched and addressed. He is starting to agree that public school isn't good and wishes we could afford private school, but we can't, and even if we could I wouldn't want to. Now, his concern is that our DS (3.5 yrs.) needs the experience of playing with others without mommy nearby. Personally, I think that when he is ready for playing without me, he'll have the chance, friends houses, classes, sports, etc. But DH is concerned that he needs more of that now.

Anyone have any experience in both trying to convince your partner that homeschool is the right option for you or any articles/research about play without your mom watching??

[limette]

Just do a search in the forum or scroll through a couple of pages. There are lots of threads on this subject!

[Lillian J]

Originally Posted by limette

Just do a search in the forum or scroll through a couple of pages. There are lots of threads on this subject!

There are links in this short recent thread that link to some really extensive threads: Evidence in support of homeschooling

Be sure to read the DH is *really* concerned about socialization thread, and you might even want to print out the legal abstract that was published in the Widener Law Review: Evidence for Homeschooling: Constitutional Analysis in Light of Social Science Research - you'll find the link to it there.

As for playing without his mom nearby, that's something that could easily be arranged with other families right now. If it would help your husband relax, I'd certainly try to make some connections to do playdate swaps. My son had lots of opportunities for it at that age, and he had a lot of fun, but I don't know that it made any difference when I was around. If the issue is that he's really attached to you, that's not something that's going to change because of being separated from you, though - it's just one of those common things that's inexplainable but easily works itself out with time and age, and it's really no big deal.

Lillian

[*Robin*]

Thanks Lillian for the thread links. I figured many others have asked these same questions, but just couldn't find what I was looking for.

[Lillian J]

Here's a video I'd completely forgotten about until a few minutes ago when talk of an upcoming conference reminded me of it! It was taken last year at the big HomeSchool Association of California conference:
Homeschooling?!

This is really an upbeat and thought provoking series of interviews, some with dads, set in a very festive atmosphere full of children and whole families having a fabulous time together. A number of children have asked at the end of the weekend to move to there to live .

Lillian

[ktgrok]

remind your dh that until recently kids didn't have time away from mom until kindergarten. preschool is a VERY recent concept. my son wasn't apart from me until his first day of public kindergarten, and did fine with no tears. if i had pushed it younger he would have been a mess. earlier separation isn't better.

[*Robin*]

Lillian, I just wanted to thank you for the link you put in the socialization thread...
Evidence for Homeschooling: Constitutional Analysis in Light of Social Science Research
Wow! My DH has really been looking for hard evidence and I just couldn't find exactly what I was looking for... but that it is! I can't wait to show him!

And that's a great point ktgrok about preschool being a new thing. I went to preschool and so did DH, but we were probably in the first generation have a majority do that.