Mama your a sissy. (spider mentioned)

[mama2toomany]

So my daughter yelled "mama come look and see" so I did. There was a HUGE fuzzy fat spider on the floor, I have never seen this kind of spider before, it was sitting on a dog bone on the floor, the dog was sniffing it then ran away, my dd was looking for a shoe to squash it I guess.

I just grabbed a piece of paper and prodded it onto the paper, then put it outside in the sun by our porch and flowers, it wandered away.

I went back inside and there was dd arms folded looking miffed saying "mama your a sissy".

Not sure where she learned to call people a sissy, and I am a little sad she wanted to smash the spider


But I guess its one to tell dad about when he gets home.

[MusicianDad]

I would also talk to her yourself. In our house the conversation would be about 1) Why we don't call people "sissy" and 2) why we don't squish bugs and spiders.

[mama2toomany]

We went into why she wanted to kill the spider at lunch and she said that DS (her eldest brother) told her that fuzzy spiders bite.

I assured her you can move a spider without getting bitten and then I told her about sissy, too and she doesn't seem to understand that its a hurt feelings word, but she is getting it a little I think.

She heard it on a cartoon.


I also took some time while cutting veggies for supper to explain that spiders are needed and they kill a lot of other bugs that could hurt veggies and bite us as well. she likes that they eat masquitos lol

[limabean]

Wow, we'd be having a big talk about name-calling and how we treat animals in our home. I'd probably start by asking her what she means by "sissy" and why putting a spider outside would be perceived as cowardly.

[MusicianDad]

Did you explain why its a hurt feelings word? If not it might help her to understand why it is.

[mama2toomany]

Yes but she doesn't really fully grasp it I think.

She is 5 but because of an illness when she was an infant she is more like a 3 year old. I will work with her on it. From what I gather she thinks sissy means silly. not "not strong", she said she heard it on franny's feet?

Anyways I won't drill it into her today but we will have to go over it again and again and eventually she will get the idea.