Dare I TTC naturally at 43???

[kaveri07]

Greetings!
It took us 6 years to conceive ds. Unexplained infertility. Finally tried clomid+hcg+iui and worked.
2.5 years later did same thing and worked first cycle, had dd.
Both pregnancies were very smooth homebirths.
Now DS is 10 and dd almost 8. Thought I was finished having children, so being so sick of AF's (I bleed very unusually heavy, and bad PMS) I went on BCP just to end the hell of AF.
Can't believe the desire to have another baby has arisen, really thought I was done! I am feeling it is divine guidance! My kids and husband are really excited at the idea of a baby! I won't let the kids know though that we are ttc bc I don't want to get their hopes up bc it really is a long shot!
I turned 43 and am thinking to stop taking my BCP......tomorrow! YIKES. I am frightened bc I am risking another mc (had a blighted ovum before ds) and lost my ds's twin (stopped at about 4 months and delivered him at the birth ). What if I don't get pregnant and I am stuck with AF month after month. What if this time pregnancy or birth is difficult. Just feeling my fears aloud here.
I won't go through the same clomid+hcg+iui though (not sure why but I really don't want to go through that whole scenario again, we live in another state since then and now are getting ready to move again to another, the Dr was really good, and very inexpensive for some reason then).
It really would be a miracle if I could conceive at 43 when I couldn't from age 28-34!! But I do believe in miracles and if it is in divine order for me to care for another soul it will happen.
Other than the BCP I lead a chemical free life (as much as possible) so part of me really wants to be free of the BCP and the potential bad side effects. It has been such a luxury though not dealing with AF for I think 3 years now!
Part of me is saying don't stop to take the risk!
Time to sleep on this.... Goodnight

[Mommel]

I too believe in divine providence and miracles... sleeping on it is a good idea, but you never know why you feel compelled to do a thing until after you've done it. Go for it. And keep us posted.

[soso-lynn]

If you are ok with the fact that it is extremely unlikely to work, go ahead and try naturally. However, at your age and with your history, if you want a real shot and getting pregnant, you need to see a fertility specialist. IUIs with medication (perhaps clomid or femara + injections) might work or IVF might be an option (although at your age, your odds might be similar to IUIs). You should also be aware of the much higher risk of miscarriage.

I am not trying to be a downer, but you do nt have much time and it would be sad if you were to try naturally for a while only to find out you REALLY want a baby and be too late when you finally see a doctor.

As far as your horrible periods, that could also be related to a medical issue so if your periods come back the same as they were before, you have find out what the problem is.

[Tear78]

It sounds like you're doing some good soul-searching. You are not old!!! But I am going through the medication/IUI hell you went through, and I understand your nervous feelings about being able to get preg naturally. I know they say that the older we get, the harder it can get to get pregs, but I also have heard of plenty of women getting pregnant in their forties. Listen to your heart, and I bet it will tell you what to do. At the very least, you may find that going off BCP makes you feel better emotionally. I was on them for a few years and went through a round of depression with medication and everything. Then it suddenly dawned on me (why it didn't dawn on my DOCTORS astounds me) that maybe I was feeling that way from the pill. I went off it, and the world lifted off my shoulders. Just a thought...I didn't think I was feeling any side effects while on it. Good luck with your decision!

[kaveri07]

Thanks everyone for your feedback
I stopped the pill on Saturday and hopefully like Tear78 maybe I will feel better. So far I have only read/heard of negative side effects of stopping the pill though......but I am looking for the positive (not meaning the hpt lol)

As far as your horrible periods, that could also be related to a medical issue so if your periods come back the same as they were before, you have find out what the problem is.[/QUOTE]

They were like that since my periods started and I went through laps and all and no Dr's could find a reason but at least the BCP were a temp solution. If it gets too bad again and I am desperate I'll go back to them but at least I'll get a break from them for a while.

We'll see what happens, I am really happy and satisfied either way so I am leaving the results in the hands of the divine
++++++Blessings to everyone who is ttc here!!