Most of you know that BM does not really spend anytime at all with dss, I really try to include her on things, it doesn't work. She sees me as the enemy. I really tried in the beginning to really get to know her, and become friends so things would go smoother. She resisted, wants a "bad" relationship with me, because I guess thats how it is suppose to be.
Anyways. Lately I have been kinda proud of her, she picked dss up on one of her nights (she never does this, she hasn't seen him in 6 months). Told me they were going to go spend the day out and enjoying each other. I was really really happy for dss. When he got home he said they stayed at her apartment all day and night and didn't do anything. I am guessing he was hoping for something fun and different. I was still happy they were at least spending time together.
She asked for him the other day, and I was really floored and super happy, I do not tell her this, I act like she sees him everyday when she is around, because I do not want to ruffle feathers.
He told me that when he got to her place, she went and borrowed a lawn mower from her neighbor (she lives in an apartment, doesn't need to mow). Told dss to mow the lawn and earn his keep. He did. Then she had him do a bunch of other stuff, removing sticks and rocks and cleaning the yard.
Turns out, her landlord paid her to do this and she made dss do it to "earn his keep". He called me to come and get him, I did. He was in tears saying that he felt that she used him, to make money. I have to agree.
So now instead of hoping BM will drop by or call, he is super mad at her and doesn't want to see her at all.
My dh is very upset and wants to scream at BM, but I know that would be useless so I won't let him, they do not talk, if they are in the same room, they are yelling at each other.
Now she has called again and asked for an extra day and night with dss, he doesn't want to go, I can't make him.
sucks, I wish they could have a calm relationship, but sometimes it feels like with BM is chaos or nothing.
Anyways. Lately I have been kinda proud of her, she picked dss up on one of her nights (she never does this, she hasn't seen him in 6 months). Told me they were going to go spend the day out and enjoying each other. I was really really happy for dss. When he got home he said they stayed at her apartment all day and night and didn't do anything. I am guessing he was hoping for something fun and different. I was still happy they were at least spending time together.
She asked for him the other day, and I was really floored and super happy, I do not tell her this, I act like she sees him everyday when she is around, because I do not want to ruffle feathers.
He told me that when he got to her place, she went and borrowed a lawn mower from her neighbor (she lives in an apartment, doesn't need to mow). Told dss to mow the lawn and earn his keep. He did. Then she had him do a bunch of other stuff, removing sticks and rocks and cleaning the yard.
Turns out, her landlord paid her to do this and she made dss do it to "earn his keep". He called me to come and get him, I did. He was in tears saying that he felt that she used him, to make money. I have to agree.
So now instead of hoping BM will drop by or call, he is super mad at her and doesn't want to see her at all.
My dh is very upset and wants to scream at BM, but I know that would be useless so I won't let him, they do not talk, if they are in the same room, they are yelling at each other.
Now she has called again and asked for an extra day and night with dss, he doesn't want to go, I can't make him.
sucks, I wish they could have a calm relationship, but sometimes it feels like with BM is chaos or nothing.
