Playdate Turned B-day Party - WWYD? - Page 2

[wookie]

^^ Greedy Playdate Pirate

[GreenGranolaMama]

Originally Posted by wookie

^^ greedy playdate pirate

lol!

[Nansense]

oh, you guys are too funny!! I needed a chuckle!

Now here's the update that leads me to NOT going....

I emailed the club leader that I had no idea this playdate was a party (and so on, my feelings, etc..) and she writes back that the mom posted the invite on the forum page 2 weeks ago so I should have known. And says "bring a NEW wrapped book to exchange".

I wrote back that I rsvp'd on the calendar events page and there was no mention of the party. But now it's Sunday evening and I have no time to go buy a NEW book because we have to leave early.

Can you believe this? I'm chuckling that I'm having to deal with such petty crap, but I guess it goes with having kids and joining a moms club. I tihnk I'm really in the wrong job!

[phathui5]

You could wrap a kid book you already own. There's no need to buy a new book.

[Nansense]

btw, thanks for letting me vent about this very little, crappy, insignificant bs!

[2cutiekitties]

I can see that mistake happening. I would make sure to go to the page that lists more detail from here on out.

I ended up crashing a bday party. It was so embarassing. I thought when she listed that it was his bday, it was just a casual thing, and turns out it was his 2 year old party, grandparents, 30 people there. All his presents. Thankfully I got a ToyRUs gift card. But I show up, no one knows me or DS, I was the only one from the playgroup. I feel like a freakin idiot. I still shudder when thinking about it. DS had fun though.

That was my last group activity.

[choli]

Originally Posted by Nansense

Thanks for replying quickly!

I should clarify that the mom has made it a book exchange so every kid brings and goes home with a book. So I am obligated to buy a book.

I'm more irritated by the process and being snookered rather than the cost. We can handle the $10, but it's the principle.

Uh, no you're obligated to buy a book. The idea of a book exchange is to exchange books you already own.

[Drummer's Wife]

I would just bring one of my kids' books, if getting one was going to be a big deal. Weird that you didn't know it was a party upfront, but honestly, I would just go with it and have a good time. You will still get to hang out with other moms, and the kids will get to play together. Sounds funner than a regular playdate to me!

[lilyka]

I can see why you are irritated. Its not the money.

But the mom is trying to be thoughtful with the whole book exchange idea and I think her intent was to spread the birthday funness, not to be a ninja party planner. This is just a little bit more than her showing up with cupcakes.

Do you want to go? do you think it would be fun? If not then feel free not to go.

Can you afford the book? You said you could and that this is not the issue. So why not go and let your kid participste?

It is easy to let the crappiness overcome you. I mean you signed up for a playdate and now it has turned into something else. I get it. That would make me crabby. But it sounds like the new plan is fun and do-able. Why not just enjoy it.

[sapphire_chan]

Would you be upset if you suddenly found out the playdate group was having a book exchange if there wasn't a "birthday" element? Because none of what you've described makes me think you're being asked to bring a gift for the kid.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Nansense

oh, you guys are too funny!! I needed a chuckle!

Now here's the update that leads me to NOT going....

I emailed the club leader that I had no idea this playdate was a party (and so on, my feelings, etc..) and she writes back that the mom posted the invite on the forum page 2 weeks ago so I should have known. And says "bring a NEW wrapped book to exchange".

I wrote back that I rsvp'd on the calendar events page and there was no mention of the party. But now it's Sunday evening and I have no time to go buy a NEW book because we have to leave early.

Can you believe this? I'm chuckling that I'm having to deal with such petty crap, but I guess it goes with having kids and joining a moms club. I tihnk I'm really in the wrong job!

OMG. Give up that group. That is soooo not cool. Not cool to forget to update the calendar page, not cool to forget to update the meeting description, not cool to REQUIRE a new (vs like-new or good condition) book.

[Nansense]

Yes, I'm done with this group. We're moving anyway. I wrote the b-day mom to send our regrets and will leave it at that. (and will call her in a little while to make sure).

So I'm done. Thanks everyone for your input!

[mamazee]

Yeah the email response you got sounded a bit Jr. Highish. I'd be outta there too.

[lilyka]

that group sounds really complicated. I think you need something omre streight forward and with less obligation.