We have struggled with this a bit too, for many of the same reasons. My now 7 YO DD started gymnastics at 3 and is very good. Maybe not quite as good as your DD, but far outstripping her age group and moved up in class level so that now she is mostly with older girls (9-13) as well. There was definitely a time when she was the youngest/smallest in her class and it was harder. She is also ADHD (professionally diagnosed, not just my suspicion). So I've seen a lot of exactly the sort of thing that you are describing.
We moved her out of the YMCA program when both her coaches and we realized she was ready to move up but they couldn't let her go beyond her age bracket with their system. The gym we chose let her move up by ability, without restriction by age. However, they have always been careful to put her in classes where there were more younger girls than older ones. There is a world of "socialization" difference between school aged and non-school-aged children! We have limited her class time to 1 hr/lesson so that she didn't have quite so much standing around/waiting stuff. I cannot imagine DD actually being able to hold it together for a full 2 hour class, especially on a school day. We tend to concentrate on Saturday classes so that she isn't so tired for class, though we have recently added a second hour on Wednesday afternoons. We made sure she was never in a class with more than 4 other girls so that the coach could adequately supervise both the girls working on skills and those waiting.
Then we took the biggest step and the one that has helped the most. Because the ADHD was interfering with both school and gymnastics progress, we sought professional diagnosis and treatment. While somewhat unpopular here at MDC, the right ADHD medication has made the world of difference in her ability to manage both school and the gym. Virtually all of her social interaction issues and attention issues disappeared at that point. Next week she is joining the demo team (our gym does not competitive gymnastics until level 5 and she's a 3).
All of which is a long way to recommend finding a different program but not leaving the sport. It sounds like she enjoys it, other than this current difficulty. I would suggest maybe short, smaller classes and a gym that might have more advanced but younger girls that she can be with.
It also sounds like the right daycamp or preschool program this summer might be really good, especially if she isn't doing that now. There is something about learning social skills that takes practice, especially for children who have different perceptions of the world. Of course, you may be already doing that, but I can't tell. If you do add something else, you might want to look for a small enough group size that the teacher/councelor can coach social skills (something that a gymnastics coach can't do) within the group.
We moved her out of the YMCA program when both her coaches and we realized she was ready to move up but they couldn't let her go beyond her age bracket with their system. The gym we chose let her move up by ability, without restriction by age. However, they have always been careful to put her in classes where there were more younger girls than older ones. There is a world of "socialization" difference between school aged and non-school-aged children! We have limited her class time to 1 hr/lesson so that she didn't have quite so much standing around/waiting stuff. I cannot imagine DD actually being able to hold it together for a full 2 hour class, especially on a school day. We tend to concentrate on Saturday classes so that she isn't so tired for class, though we have recently added a second hour on Wednesday afternoons. We made sure she was never in a class with more than 4 other girls so that the coach could adequately supervise both the girls working on skills and those waiting.
Then we took the biggest step and the one that has helped the most. Because the ADHD was interfering with both school and gymnastics progress, we sought professional diagnosis and treatment. While somewhat unpopular here at MDC, the right ADHD medication has made the world of difference in her ability to manage both school and the gym. Virtually all of her social interaction issues and attention issues disappeared at that point. Next week she is joining the demo team (our gym does not competitive gymnastics until level 5 and she's a 3).
All of which is a long way to recommend finding a different program but not leaving the sport. It sounds like she enjoys it, other than this current difficulty. I would suggest maybe short, smaller classes and a gym that might have more advanced but younger girls that she can be with.
It also sounds like the right daycamp or preschool program this summer might be really good, especially if she isn't doing that now. There is something about learning social skills that takes practice, especially for children who have different perceptions of the world. Of course, you may be already doing that, but I can't tell. If you do add something else, you might want to look for a small enough group size that the teacher/councelor can coach social skills (something that a gymnastics coach can't do) within the group.








I am going to put my dd in some camp this summer, most likely at the school she will attend in the fall. We will also have her formally evaluated in about a month if we can not get an earlier appointment.
I was so embarassed and angry. Usually dd is super well-behaved with teachers and instructors. I think the class has been stressful for her. I don't know if it is that stress that is making her act up, the length of the class, immaturity, problems with the other girls, imitating the other girls, her age, or a combination of things. DD's always been "spirited," but I know she's been more difficult overall--even at home since moving from the 1 hour to the 2 hour class.
at how different she is in that class than in gymnastics. I told my husband, and he said it's that way all the time. She was calm...CALM. Patient--there are always 2 or 3 other kids in the class, so there is an element of waiting. She looked agreeable, and she looked so HAPPY. That's what got me the most. I mean she was all smiles. She took instruction from the teacher, and looked proud of her acheivements. She was liek a totally different kid. Only when I watched that class did I realize that she hardly ever smiled in gymnastics--it makes me sad to think about. So I'm pretty sure we made the right decision by pulling her out. If after a while, she misses artistic, I can try it out at the new gym.
. She's been doing that since she was 3, and also flips on the trampoline. We will definitely keep diving in mind for her as she gets older!
, just that I had to pull, I mean pull it out of her that things weren't quite right in gymnastics). She almost seems oblivious sometimes, just going about what she thinks it is she is supposed to be doing. I've had my eye on this the whole time, and dh and I have had many discussions about it. It's not like I just cluelessly kept my child in a bad situation, content that she was "advanced." Some children are just harder to read--even for their own parents.