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Originally Posted by kathan12904
 Baby's are born to love and do it with vigor, its mama's that have the long range emotional baggage that gets in the way of life.
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Zannster--yes, you will bond, you ARE bonding every day. Yes yes yes, as kathan says so beautifully, "babies are born to love and do it with vigor!" Even born to love YOU, with your 'baggage' (which we all have). I had 5 lovely homebirths...with 4 of those kiddos the love seemed to bloom instantaneously, with the 5th, it was a harder birth and recovery time and I had ppd, so after that first love-rush the bonding came slower. Then with #6, I had a fairly traumatic pregnancy/birth/pp-time, including an emergency csec--more ppd (or PTSD more likely), and talk about reasons for bonding to falter or fail in that first year! But that baby (now 12) and I are so close.
All of my kids, and perhaps especially my #6, have taught me about love, about open hearts and giving and receiving love. All have taught me that it is ALWAYS the right moment to love, that I am worthy of love, 'warts and all' and that I am *just* the loving, giving mother that they all needed.
Love really is the healer. Instead of feeling disappointment in yourself that you handed baby off to grandmas, celebrate the fact that your baby could be so well loved by other family members while you needed to care for you. See that the love has never failed you or your baby, even if that love has not arrived in the timing or forms you once imagined were 'the best'. Let love keep growing and flowing, to heal and nurture you both, more and more in time.
