I am having trouble. I have practiced AP, gentle discipline, etc. I totally believe in these principles, and support the ideals. That said: WHAT THE HECK HAVE I DONE WRONG?????? My son cannot be in a separate room from me. He will not play, go to the bathroom, eat, ANYTHING unless I or my husband is in the same room. I can't go to the bathroom, shower, read, anything in solitude. I get no break. He needs my constant attention for EVERYTHING. I understand that he IS dependent on me for a lot of things, and I expect that he will be for some time. I am just having trouble with the idea that he can't even play by himself. It's like he doesn't know how to function without me watching. He just follows me around, crying....which makes me need space even more (or makes me feel like a horrible mom). I'm just frustrated, and getting no relief, with my son pulling at my hand while I type this, crying (both of us). Any one else going a little crazy with me? Any advice for a GENTLE way to help him understand that a LITTLE separation is a GOOD thing? (Just so it is clear, he is fine if I go somewhere without him. This separation is ok, and the only way I get a break is to hand him off to someone else (which I don't do very often)....and he is fine as long as that person is able to pay full attention to him....).
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4/19/10 at 10:23am