Originally Posted by olstep
Obviously the above is not appalling to you.
I will expect a MW to change her fee because I have had prenatals, even if you tell me not to. No need to ask or tell her what to do. We all have right to do what is right for us: to have no prenatals at all at 30 weeks or find a MW who matches us better.
I am not telling you what to do but it seems to me that in your case it would be a good idea to pay your MW her full fee and even something on top. It looks like she WILL be doing much more work with you plus it is what you believe is right, isn't it?
Whoa. Firstly, I discussed this with said midwife ahead of time (and offered to have prenatals here with the midwife for my last pregnancy). Secondly, I have a mw HERE and THERE to answer my questions as needed. Thirdly, this is my fourth baby, and I (like you claim to be) am highly read on the subject. Fourthly, I don't believe in routine labs and testing. Stuff that's symptomatic, sure...but most tests are unnecessary for the regular, healthy mom and pregnancy. (And don't get me started on how gestational diabetes isn't symptomatic. I don't even care...). Fifthly, it is possible, because of the unpredictability of birth, that the midwife could have a big job at the birth, BUT, I've had three very easy and uncomplicated births. My last midwife was here 2 hours.
AND, my situation IS different than showing up last minute and wanting care. I began developing a relationship with this midwife at SIX weeks pg.
However, the point of my comment wasn't to be bashed for my lack of BP readings over the course of this pregnancy, or my undocumented fundal height. The point was a midwife is due the respect of the fee she charges, and should not be made to feel guilty because someone has already had a few things checked out. Prenatals aren't the be all end all of a midwife's relationship. It's WHOLE body, TOTAL patient care. It's a RELATIONSHIP. And it's value isn't based on hours. (Either during prenatal care OR the birth).
I am probably going to see my midwife a total of 10-15 hours...prenatal, birth, and postnatal. And, yes, I still believe she deserves her full fee.
But this whole thread makes me want to stick out my tongue and holler "nananabooboo".