, I don't feel horrible about it, I just feel like I did when I weaned DD: sorry this might be hard for you, but it is part of life and I love you and will make it as good for you as possible. But there is a big difference: with weaning she was losing something as a part of growing up. Now, she is losing one thing but gaining a lot, too.
I feel very positive about DD having a sibling and I think this positivity will impact her feelings about it. If you have a "OMG I feel so bad for you" attitude, she may pick up on it and adopt that attitude: "poor me, this is terrible, how could they do this to me?" Believe me, my DD is the centre of our universe but she is excited to have a new little one to care for and to join our little club. I am sure it will have its hard moments, but my moments of feeling bad for her are outweighed by my thoughts about how great it will be. I don't want her to be self-absorbed and think everything we do should be about her and she will learn that when there is a baby to care for. And a new person in our family to love! Sometimes I think she feels like "don't you people have something else to do?
" because we are all over her all the time, so having another recipient of our affection may be a bit of a relief for her!!!
As for sucking at the mom job, well I think we are all hard on ourselves but I try to remember that I am doing the best I can and am always trying to improve and well, I don't think I suck that bad
and I'm sure you don't, either. Of course you'll be able to play with her! People always tell me that the second one is along for the ride while you do regular life with the first one. It's not like the first time where it's all about the baby, when you already have a little one, #2 has to adapt to what's going on, not vice versa (am I right, people with more than one kid??
) I mean, I am planning on wearing the baby as we hustle off to DD's ballet, music, school runs, etc. I think it is vitally important that DD NOT
feel like life has come to a screeching halt because now we have a baby; that would definitely foster resentment. So that's what I'm thinkin'. Go easy on yourself, mama!!!