post #21 of 21
4/23/10 at 6:54pm
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Originally Posted by Bebegim View Post
I feel soooo horrible about having another baby!!!! I feel like, I totally suck at this job as it is, and why the he** would I want to take MORE time away from my poor DD. She already begs me most of the day to play with her and I really just cant. Or dont want too. And now, I will literally not be able too. Plus, I mean, she is so sweet, why would I make her feel like she isnt important anymore? Its really so mean. I guess because she has been my whole world for so long, since before she was ever born, I feel like a major traitor for having another baby.

By this time in my pregnancy with DD I was already talking to her constantly, telling her how much I loved her and talking about all the fun things we would do together... I cant attach at all to this baby yet. I felt like I knew DD immediately, but I have no idea who is swimming around in there now. I am really one of those moms who is wondering, how can I possibly love another baby as much as my first?

AND, Im pissed I didnt have another sooner, so DD could have a playmate... instead of a way younger siblings who will undoubtedly annoy the crap out of her like my sister did to me! "Include your sister, Lauren!!" "But shes a baby!! And my friends are here..." "I dont care, give her a part and include her." UGH! I hated her because she was so much younger than me and I still always had to play with her! And now Im doing the exact same thing to my poor DD (

pregnancy hormones are clearly killing me....
I think that is a common feeling with a second pregnancy. I got depressed with #2 pregnancy, feeling bad about not being able to have it be just me and child #1. And I didn't feel attatched to the baby in the womb until I almost lost him at 12 weeks when I started to bleed. But, once baby was born, things fell together and it was so much easier to parent... especially when they began interacting iwth eachother... and especially when driving in the car. If you can have a positive attitude that rubs off on your dd, I think she can have a good relationship with her younger sibling. My sisters and I were 7 years apart, and I was the middle girl. We were all very close, and have gotten more so as we grew up. It can be a good thing!