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I already called and tattled..... but, should I have ignored it?

post #1 of 31
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We have a large group of neighbor boys. They each have a large group of friends. The youngest is seven, the oldest just turned 12.

They play a game that means they need to use the whole neighborhood... yards, driveways, the whole thing.

One house is empty, but belonged to our good friend. (the whole block's friend, not just ours) Anyway... these boys use this empty house to play this game. They climb around on the block wall and jump the fence.

There's a pool that's green and gross. The boys tend to throw more junk into the pool. (that doesn't bother me so much)

But, today, there were several kids up on top of the roof. It's a big house, all concrete tile, and the ground is landscaped in rock. There were at least four boys RUNNING across the top of the house, jumping onto the block wall, then jumping back into the backyard and doing it again. They were sortof chasing each other.

I called one of the dads. I didn't see HIS kids up there, but I know the oldest one was up there. It's his kids who think they can do whatever they want to that house, because these parents are trying to help get it sold. So, the kids feel like they have special rights to the house. (they kinda do)

Anyway... I ignore a LOT from these kids. But, climbing on the roof of someone elses house just is not right, not to mention dangerous. If one of the other neighbor kids from another street were to get hurt, they'd sue the homeowner.
post #2 of 31
That's a death-or-lifechanging-paralysis kind of safety issue. I would have called, too.
post #3 of 31
Enh, I would have gone outside and hollered, "Get your butts down! Are you crazy?!" I'm not sure I would have tattled but I think it is ok that you did.
post #4 of 31
I totally would have tattled. And I would want to know if my kids were participating in any of that. Kids can have fun while respecting the property of others.
post #5 of 31
If it were my kids up there I would be glad you called. I mean if you had yelled at them all to get down I would have been fine with that too. But I also would want to know about it so I could make sure they did not go up again. Nevermind the fact that they would also get a talking to about respecting other peoples property and thier own well being. I think you did the right thing.
post #6 of 31
I don't call that tattling. I call it being a responsible adult. If it were my kids, I'd want to get that phone call.
post #7 of 31
I would have yelled at them to get down, found out exactly who they were and called each of their parents to let them know. That's dangerous.
post #8 of 31
That is a safety issue. I absolutely would have tattled, and also yelled for the kids to get down and not to do it again. Also, if my son were doing that, I would want the person who saw it to tell me, so I could talk to him about it. You did the right thing!
post #9 of 31
I'd have yelled at them to get down. Do they even have permission to be using the house as their playhouse? Even if they were not on the roof & got hurt in that yard/house people could sue the owners.
post #10 of 31
Similar, but not as extreme, situation here.

Neighborhood house is empty (but not for sale. Family plans to move back in 7 years. They've already been gone 4. Yeah, I know that makes no sense, especially in this very high tax area!) Anyway. We've taken over their driveway. I park in it too often. I've let my kids use chalk on it. Other kids in the neighborhood use their walkway for skateboarding stuff. And once it looked like some older kids were trying to get into the house. When that happened I just went out and let my presence be known. That way they could decide for themselves if they wanted their parents to hear about it.
post #11 of 31
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Originally Posted by rightkindofme View Post
Enh, I would have gone outside and hollered, "Get your butts down! Are you crazy?!" I'm not sure I would have tattled but I think it is ok that you did.
I would have hollered too but I think I would also have called the parents, that sound dangerous
post #12 of 31
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Originally Posted by earthmama369 View Post
That's a death-or-lifechanging-paralysis kind of safety issue. I would have called, too.
Same here. I get nervous when someone might bust their brains out.
post #13 of 31
Tattle away.
post #14 of 31
Tattle away. I know someone who says he has permanently broken ankles (broke a growth plate) because he was jumping off the roof of a garage.
post #15 of 31
I would have told the parents of ALL the children participating.

I would also not be okay with them throwing stuff into the pool. I have a friend who has SUCH a hard time dealing with neighborhood kids throwing stuff into her pool. It's a really big problem for her and it's a pain to deal with.

In this situation, I'd also be having a review with my own child about respecting other people's property.
post #16 of 31
Honestly I would have called just the same. Just because no one is currently living in the house does NOT mean that the neighborhood kids should have free run of the place. (I definitely would not be okay with the kids throwing things into the pool either.
post #17 of 31
I just caught a couple of kids jumping off my roof. The fist time they woke the baby and the second time I ran out in time to catch one. I certainly tattled and I think you were right to do the same.
post #18 of 31
Tattling is when you are trying to get someone IN trouble; telling is when you are trying to get someone OUT of trouble.

So, you were telling.
post #19 of 31
I would have told them to get off and called each parent. Playing around a pool and on a roof are not safe activities.
post #20 of 31
I admire you for calling the parents. Lots of people would have just called the police.
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