Its over!
A little update....my adoption worker called and told me the children's relative never made contact with her (she sent a letter stating she needed to hear from her by last Friday or she would assume she wasnt interested in adopting), so therefore she is no longer being considered as an adoptive placement for the children, and the agency is proceeding with ME as the adoptive placement. Yay!
I'm so happy, but at the same time so irritated with the foster unit for putting me through all that heartache for no reason. And i feel bad for my stbad, given the fact that she was unwanted by the first relatives who had her (who returned her to foster care a week before christmas), is told to her face by her current foster parents that they just can't wait til she is gone, and now has also been rejected by this relative, who couldnt even be bothered to call the agency and say "yknow, i've thought about it and feel adopting just isnt the best choice at this time." she just never called them back. Had the foster unit not pushed for visitation, she wouldnt have even known this relative was in the picture, instead she has to be rejected once again (she even asked me "why dont you want us to be with our family??" dont know how she got that impression.)
The 8 yr old should be moving in with me on the 11th...wont be long now. Every time i have to take her back to her FH (i have her Fri-Sun each week, this past week it was Thurs to Mon due to the holiday), she bursts into tears and begs me to keep her.
This week, when she showed up crying, the FF said "whats wrong with you???" and when i said she was just upset at not staying longer he said something like "well you can have her, she can go"...ugh. and then the FM said basically the same thing, how she is sick of her, cant wait til she is gone, etc etc. She asked the foster worker if fd could skip the last week of school and move this friday but they said no. I feel fd is in an emotionally abusive environment but not much i can do. Just hold out til next friday, then she never has to feel like a "burden" or a "bad kid" again.
The fm is a piece of work, remember she is the one who told the fd that she was never going back to her mom, that TPR went through, in a totally casual way (i know this since i was on the phone with her at the time, she called the fd over and told her, then asked whether she wanted to live with me or her.
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Anyway....soon i'll have four kids for forever!
I'm so glad things turned out well.
, and my heart is aching just hearing the situation (even though it has a familiar ring...definitely have seen similar things, but it just should never, ever be that way for kids
She can make it one more week, though, and then she'll be home forever!
