do you want the bad news or the bad news?

[Brunetta]

I got to work and realized that I forgot my wallet, so I went back home to get it. Something seemed a little off, so I went in my bedroom to find my SO with another woman. Yep ... Informed him that its over and that I'm moving out. I'm going to stay with my father for a little bit.

I think AF is going to show soon. That doesn't really bother me much given the situation. I'm cramping some, so I took some Tylenol and got a box of those heating pads.

I need to think about how to proceed with TTC, considering I'm very high-risk of early menopause. If it happens the same age as my mother, I have roughly three years. I have a very close friend who offered to be a donor, when I first found out that I may not have that long to have kids, so I need to decide if that's a route I want to take.

[Lousli]

Oh my gosh. I am so sorry! I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you.

There is a test that can be done, it is a fairly simple blood test from what I understand, that gives you some idea of what your ovarian reserves are. They can often tell you how fertile you are based on that. It might be something to consider if you are definitely thinking of the donor route.

I hope everything works out for you.

[suzywan]

Man, I'm so sorry to hear that. What an f'd up situation!

I'd get your FSH and LH tested to see if you are actually heading toward early menopause. Stock up on Red Clover and drink infusions daily. I hear that's really good for protecting fertility.

They are now perfecting egg freezing, so that *may* be a possibility.

Again, I'm so sorry your dealing with this - what a punch to the gut

[briome]

Well, that sucks...but as sucky as it is, at least you know now!
Get some good sperm, sounds like a good idea/ Hugs!

[Brunetta]

Thanks ladies. Yes, I need to get the testing done to see exactly where I'm at. If I only have a few years left, I would want to get cracking. I don't want to miss my oppurtunity. But if not, I would probably want to wait for a good guy to come along.

[MaerynPearl]

Hey on the plus side, if you find a REALLY good guy he wont care if you already have kids. Ill be marrying mine in about 2 months... and he is a great dad to my kids... only the current one in my womb being biologically his.

And yeah... good guys do exist. Not the sort that do things like what you caught your SO doing. They are just really hard to find because if you are looking you probably wont find them (mine fell into my lap. happened to be a good friend of mine for 3 years before we realized we were in love and not just friends)

[CLH_X3]

OMG! This must be so hard for you, I would be so mad! at my OH but glad I knew in a way



I dont really have much advice just Hugs

[Blanca78]

HUGE hugs. It really sounds like you have your head screwed on straight, though, and have a good friend on hand in case you do need to go the accelerated route. Testing also sounds like a really good idea. YOU CAN DO THIS!

[NeverBeenHappier]

So, so sorry to hear about all that.

On a side note, I wanted to second what MaerynPearl has said. My now husband didn't even blink at the thought of being with me when he knew that I came with 3 kids. Wasn't even an issue - ever. He tells everyone he has 4 kids and one on the way and he never bothers to explain he's a step-dad to 3 of them. He also has the unfortunate experience of having to deal with my moronic ex-husband!

Hang in there!

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by NeverBeenHappier

My now husband didn't even blink at the thought of being with me when he knew that I came with 3 kids. Wasn't even an issue - ever. He tells everyone he has 4 kids and one on the way and he never bothers to explain he's a step-dad to 3 of them. He also has the unfortunate experience of having to deal with my moronic ex-husband!

90% the same, except hes not my hubby yet and we only have 2 kids and one on the way lol... but seriously even DFs family tell me its like our older two are his biologically (they even think DS looks like DF... no one would ever say DD looks like anyone but me though, shes my clone! LOL)

Neither he nor the kids even correct cashiers/waitresses when they say something about him being dad or them being his son/daughter. Which is a complete opposite of how I was with both of my step parents... I correct anyone that calls them my parent. I love my step dad, but hes not my dad. I really dislike my step mom and she is VERY much not my mom.

[Stevi]

I am so very sorry! I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. Hugs!!!

If I were you, I would be doing some heavy thinking over the next week, then have some very serious conversations with your possible donor. I've learned that waiting for the right guy is just waiting.

[finnegansmom]

I'm so sorry.

[bcblondie]

Oh my dear. I couldn't read and not post. I'm so sorry. And I'm sorry you had to find out in this way! wow.

I would defiantely go the donor route if i knew I didn't have much time.

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

so sorry your going through this hun what a total *********

[nintendork]

RIDICULOUS!!!! I am so sorry brunetta! It's just not fair!

Keep us updated on your testing, we are all rooting for you!

[annablue]

How horrible! I'm so sorry.

[Tara2]

That's awful! I'm so sorry. Must be quite a shock, to say the least.

[Brunetta]

Thanks for your support everyone

[TheDivineMrsM]

Wow, that's terrible. I'm especially impressed that you're able to type with what surely must be a busted computer. If it was my DH, I would've tossed the nearest large, heavy object at his head.

Seriously though, I am so sorry for what you're going through.

[Spinnerette]

I'm so horribly sorry to hear that. If I were you I'd go get tested for STIs asap, and then go the donor route.

I commend you for being strong enough to leave the bastard. Good for you.