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[St. Margaret]

I don't think it's crazy AT ALL to not feel comfortable with overnights, ESPECIALLY FOR BABIES, which is what we're talking about. I remember being much older, a school child, and getting very sad and anxious on the odd nights I'd stay at a dear friend's house (her mom was my mom's best friend, I saw her most every day).

What is with the obsession with grandparents and overnights? And 8 hours away?! For me and my family, there'd be no way in this world we'd do that at 2 or 3 years old. The child would have to be much older, able to really agree and know it was set and be able to pick up a phone and call if they were having any problems.

OP, I'd stay noncommital. You are the mama, and this is your call. You wait until you know you and DS are both ready. I can imagine that being YEARS and years away. And there is nothing wrong with that. You will know when you are ready.

[JL83]

Originally Posted by St. Margaret

I don't think it's crazy AT ALL to not feel comfortable with overnights, ESPECIALLY FOR BABIES, which is what we're talking about.

Actually, I believe the OP said her son was 2. That's not a baby at all.

[St. Margaret]

Originally Posted by JL83

Actually, I believe the OP said her son was 2. That's not a baby at all.

She said he was getting close to 2, and IMO, a 2yo is a baby. This is exactly what I mean; it's going to feel differently to different people, which is why the mama and child have to decide about how they feel and not be pressured by others.

[peaceful_mama]

for this, 2 is a 'baby.'

I think what I would do 8 hours away is arrange to visit and let her have some "alone time" with him that didn't involve 'overnight.' Like go visit her as a family and you and DH get some alone time--'date night' whatever while she babysits.

that way you are right there if it's not going very well and you are there for him at night, which he still needs.

I have an almost 18 month old, 3 yr old and 5 yr old and I can't imagine any of them staying that far away without us.

there's no 'back out' on that, they need to be older IMO and understand that before you can send them for a visit.