I received a call from DS's teacher's at school today. The one that called said that DS had been scratching his penis all day and saying that it was "itchy" but wasn't painful. They finally took him into the bathroom to look at it (which I completely understand) and then "looked at the inside of his penis" (which I am a bit ticked off about). They told me that it looked "quite red on the inside". Whatever that means. I took it to mean they retracted him, but didn't press for answers.
He just turned three, and his foreskin is beginning to retract a bit when he is in the bath, or when he sits on the potty too long while pooping and he is playing with his penis. He doesn't complain of it hurting, but I can see the bright pink part inside (can't remember the name of that part at the moment), and I know it is all normal looking and he is doing just fine.
I just put him to bed and asked him what his teachers did to him when he said his penis was itchy, and he listed three of his teachers and said they put gloves on and looked at the inside of his penis. He did say that what they did didn't hurt him, but I am irritated that they "looked inside" at all. Also, why on earth would three teachers need to retract him to look at how red it might be?
Next week is his last week there, so I don't want to cause too many waves, and I told him tonight to tell his teachers "Please don't touch my penis" if they try to do it again. I also told him that only he was allowed to look at the inside of his penis, and I think he seemed to get that.
Unfortunately, I made a doctor's appointment without seeing him, just going on what the teachers had said. When I realized it was nothing to worry about, the office was closed, and we are the first appointment of the day tomorrow morning. I want to cancel it, but can't at this point. No idea what to do about that.
Any suggestions on what to say to the teachers? The doctor? Ack!
He just turned three, and his foreskin is beginning to retract a bit when he is in the bath, or when he sits on the potty too long while pooping and he is playing with his penis. He doesn't complain of it hurting, but I can see the bright pink part inside (can't remember the name of that part at the moment), and I know it is all normal looking and he is doing just fine.
I just put him to bed and asked him what his teachers did to him when he said his penis was itchy, and he listed three of his teachers and said they put gloves on and looked at the inside of his penis. He did say that what they did didn't hurt him, but I am irritated that they "looked inside" at all. Also, why on earth would three teachers need to retract him to look at how red it might be?
Next week is his last week there, so I don't want to cause too many waves, and I told him tonight to tell his teachers "Please don't touch my penis" if they try to do it again. I also told him that only he was allowed to look at the inside of his penis, and I think he seemed to get that.
Unfortunately, I made a doctor's appointment without seeing him, just going on what the teachers had said. When I realized it was nothing to worry about, the office was closed, and we are the first appointment of the day tomorrow morning. I want to cancel it, but can't at this point. No idea what to do about that.
Any suggestions on what to say to the teachers? The doctor? Ack!
I agree here what the Dr. did boarders on sexual abuse and was potentially very damaging to your ds. Why would you just let it go? Please for the sake of other little boys out there do something about this. If you dont the next little boy might end up with paraphimosis and an unnecessary circ because of it.
. Second the reason for more than one teacher inspecting the itchy aspect is so that no one can cry wolf. And you would all be shocked beyond meassure and will never want your infant son in a day care setting if you only knew how little maintstream teachers know about foreskin! I worked in a toddler room after high school and through college and would sometimes go down during naptime to help out with infants to keep everything in ratio. Well, the infant teachers were talking about foreskin and how "unclean" it is for the babies. One woman actually said if she PULLED back the skin you would see urine crystal all up under there. I was young and didn't know better. Now if I heard that I would have made a note and brought it to the attention of the director. If only she knew that the foreskin actually seals shut the opening to keep everything there clean and healthy!
