! In retrospect, it would've been helpful to know what a roller coaster the TTC journey can soemtimes be prior to launching headlong into it, and prepare myself mentally. I was pretty naive about how simple I thought it would be to just conceive. I thought all the real challenges would come after we actually had the baby. (And I know there will be plenty challenges to come then, too)Bunnies
-I am glad I am not the only one intimidated as hell by performing an IUI
Although I am not gender queer, I do like to think I have some figurative balls, now if only they produced sperm.......Osker
-Ironic how the lucky shot was a single vial insem...proof postive that its not about quantity, rather just that one great swimmer!Indigoscot
- good FYI about claiming adoption back on taxes, i will have to look into that. Thanks!erthe mama
- LOL about the KD using a salsa bowl. Do you chuckle every time you use that bowl otherwise now?
Wisconsin is such a weird state in its own way, because laws have been hostorically progressive here, (we were the first state in the country to include sexual orientation in the list of legally protected employment rights in 1982) so i had hoped we would be following suit on Gay Marriage after a handful of states started passing it. Although we do not have gay marriage, just last fall they passed a domestic partnership amendment which only addresses a VERY small number of issues, mostly centered around medical visitation and decision making, and some inheritance stuff. It grants like 43 of the 200+ state rights that married couples receive, because it cannot be "substantially similar" to marriage. While I feel its a consolation prize, I have to remember that it is better than nothing, and it is a step in the right direction....and still more than a lot of you couples out there have access to.
State law prevents same-sex second parent adoption, however WI lawyers are finding that they can get around this by the birth mother surrending all rights and then reapplying for 2-parent adoption due to a loophole they've found in the verbage of the discriminatory law. It freaks me out a little that DP would have to surrender her rights, because that sounds scary, but LGBT lawyers assure us that it will be fine, and the success rate of previous cases is setting an undeniable precedent. SO - although I ranted more than I intended on that subject, we hope to go that route. The money thing is a concern though, because I know that it will be expensive. but I don't see that we have any other choice, because it is very important to both of us that we have equal parental rights, not only for divorce/death situations, but it's just the principle of the matter!!