night weaning a toddler

[luvmy2grls]

So I am nursing my nearly 21 month old son and plan to child led wean.. We co sleep and he slept fine untill he hit a year, since then he just wakes every hr to 2 hrs and nurses but he is not a calm nurser anymore, he doses off tugging, kicking, pinching, I get shoved into the crack between the bed and wall.. I am so tired from this now, and I ache all day long cause of laying in horrible positions all night long.

I have done it this long because it is what he needs, but I need to make a change, and am toying with night weaning, we have tried a lot of different things, we put a toddler bed in our room by our bed to see if he slept better that way, nope, we tried a crib in our room and laid him in there after nursing it was working but he would wake up after a few hrs and come in to our bed again and wake every couple of hrs. DH has tried a few times to go in to comfort him but when he awake all he wants is me and my nursies lol he cries screams and thrashes in DH's arms till I show up.

Does anyone have any success stories about night weaning? tips? Advice, or even horror stories warning me not to bother lol..

That would be great.. he has slept in our bed since the day he was born so I am sure he just feels it is his bed and he belongs sleeping there, I do not mind that at all, but I wonder if night weaning means he needs his own bed away from me? I don't want to do that and make him feel unwelcome in our bed.
Oh he has never had any artificial nipples, (bottles paci's) and I do not want to start giving him any.. I did the paci thing with my second daughter and the girl still brings one to bed with her at 4.. or she doesn't sleep. so I do not want that habit with him

[Vancouver Mommy]

I just night weaned my 35 mo old. I just explained to him that I wasn't getting enough sleep at night and that I would no longer nurse him between bedtime and 7am. He's still in the bed with us but I explained that I could snuggle him back to sleep or he could cuddle with his blanket or his sister or Daddy as well. The first few nights he would still wake and ask to nurse (the second night he lay beside me and said "I want to nurse" about 400 times, but he never cried), but now if he wakes up he just asks me if it's seven yet. If I say no he says "well, I guess I'll have a snuggle then". But he's quite a bit older than your little guy. I thought about night weaning before, but didn't think he was ready. In hindsight I sort of wish I'd done it sooner. I also believe in CLW but after a not so stellar visit to the dentist with his sister we are trying put some limits on all day snacking as well, including breastmilk.

[PGTlatte]

DH and I nightweaned DS1 when he was 2 and I was pg with DS2.

Basically we switched from me sleeping with DS1 and DH sleeping alone, to me sleeping alone and DH sleeping with DS1. DH took him to bed with a sippy cup of soy milk available, which was eventually switched over to water. The first night he was upset on and off for the first couple of hours and then snuggled in to sleep. After that he would only protest at bedtime, but not once they were tucked in together, and after about a week he was settled in to the new routine completely.