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post #1 of 6
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I would never do this, but sometimes I get so frustrated with my son I want to slap or spank him. I've never done it and I always know to remove myself from him when it happens and just take a break, but I hate that feeling.

I can't be the only one that feels this way, right?
post #2 of 6
I can't imagine anyone never having those moments. It is so good that you know when you need to take a break and protect both of you that way. You can't stop a thought--you can stop an action.

And having not slept through the night (heck, usually not even three hour stretches) until my DD was 19 months old, chronic exhasution can really have an effect on a person and their patience level. Be gentle with yourself.
post #3 of 6
when my kids were about 8-9 mos old and teething i had to literally sit on my hands a few times at 3am when i hadnt slept in days and they wouldnt. stop. screaming.

i think it may be helpful for you to talk to someone IRL that you really trust so that you will have accountability.
post #4 of 6
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Originally Posted by sunfish21 View Post
I can't imagine anyone never having those moments. It is so good that you know when you need to take a break and protect both of you that way. You can't stop a thought--you can stop an action.

And having not slept through the night (heck, usually not even three hour stretches) until my DD was 19 months old, chronic exhasution can really have an effect on a person and their patience level. Be gentle with yourself.
I hope your sleep gets better soon. My son has started going through a "I won't go to sleep unless held" phase. He used to be so good about it, but now, even at naps, if I put him down a second too soon he just wakes up more and more and won't stop wiggling and just really tests my patience. I know if I just laid him back on my chest it would go a bit faster, but I want him to start going back to sleep on the mattress.

I suppose I'm just as stubborn as he is....

Glad to know I'm not the only mom though. Sometimes I feel like I am.
post #5 of 6
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i think it may be helpful for you to talk to someone IRL that you really trust so that you will have accountability.
i agree with this poster.

i went through this when my son was around 4months. he was absolutely inconsolable - just miserable to be held/rocked/everything. i was REALLY struggling with feelings of anger. i felt my energy intensify often and felt i was always so close to the brink of doing something i would regret - i'd leave him in his crib and just cry.

i found confiding in my husband was extremely helpful. the more i talked about those awful feelings the less alone and scared and MONSTERLIKE i felt.

and then - we made the decision to slowly back out of the circus act we were running around my son b/c it seemed he was miserable with or without us. and the 'with' part was making me crazy and feeling inadequate to be a mother.

once we did that. literally the clouds parted. there are still tough days - especially since he has been teething lately - days when that frustration revisits, mainly because he is so whiney and annoyed ALL DAY LONG. but its different. and i manage.

really threw me for a loop though. i didn't grow up in an abusive home or have ever had to struggle with that sort of feeling - ever. its scary.

my sympathy!!! hang in there - and TALK to someone. figure out methods/techniques you can start to practice that may help you decompress before you get to that boiling point.

i would imagine most mamas have been there at some point or another.
post #6 of 6
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I did talk to my mom. I'm staying with my family for the year while my husband is deployed and I've made it a point that I have to take a break at least 1 time a week, preferably more but my parents work too.

I don't quite know what I'll do about it outside of trying to find time for a break...it's a bit tough right now since I am basically adjusting from having my husband helping to doing it alone. I used to get a break every evening, sometimes more, and now I'm lucky if I get one even once. It only occurs at night time since I just can't wait for him to go to sleep so I have some time to myself after parenting alone all day. Yesterday I started just taking a deep breath and just letting myself doze off while he lays on me.
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