bedwetting

[pumpkingirl71]

I am sure this comes up a lot, but bed wetting is killing me. My daughter is almost six and urinates enough to soak through a pull up and onto her sheets almost every night. She has many medical and psychological issues related to adoption, so we were trying to make this a battle we weren't fighting, but now I can't even stand helping her get cleaned up in the morning. She wakes up soaked in urine and is defiant about getting cleaned up. Then I snap. So I guess we do need to stop her from peeing at night.

When I spoke with the pediatrician, she suggested an alarm. Anyone able to reccomend one that worked. Any other advice?

[Mama~Love]

I am in the same spot. I am SO FED UP with the peeing!!!! My 10 yr old DS & my 6 yr old DD both still wet at night. Our house reeks of pee! I can't get the smell out, I'm so sick of it!!

Our Dr. suggested an alarm as well, but they are so expensive, I haven't been able to try one yet.

[pumpkingirl71]

Originally Posted by Mama~Love

I can't get the smell out, I'm so sick of it!

I am sorry your are in the same spot as me, but I am so glad to hear I am not the only one at the end of my rope. Sometimes I feel like I am just impatient and imagining that my house smells

[LuckyMommaToo]

Are you using the Good Nights? What about waking her once during the night to pee? My DS still isn't dry at night, and he's 6-1/2. He's a very deep sleeper (once he's finally asleep!).

Does she want to be dry? If she doesn't, I probably wouldn't press it.
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[LynnS6]

If she's peeing through goodnights (not pull-ups, Goodnights are more absorbent), then what about something cloth that you can add an insert into? I found this product, Drymids, when I was searching for things for our ds. I was intrigued because they allow inserts, but I'm sure there are other ones out there (in fact a quick amazon search revealed several, such as Mother-ease Bedwetting pants). I believe there are also places that make disposable inserts that you can use.

Another option would be to put a vinyl pant on over the Goodnights.

Sorry, no help on the behavioral stuff. We just treated it as matter of factly as possible. Ds did outgrow the bedwetting at 8, but my niece was an adolescent before she stopped. It's just plain hard.

[eepster]

Bedwetting is not something she has any control over, so turning this into a power struggle is futile. Being angry over bedwetting is akin to getting angry at her for not growing tall enough fast enough. I understand that it is frustrating, but getting upset will not help, talking to her will not help, rewarding or punishing her will not help.

Bedwetting is similar to sleepwalking or sleeptalking and not something that can be controlled. It is genetic and runs in families along with sleepwalking and talking. Though not directly related to development (it has nothing to do with bladder size) parasomnia activity (which covers sleepwalking talking and some other sleep disorders as well as bedwetting) are most common and dramatic in early childhood.

She is probably being defiant about getting cleaned up in the morning b/c she senses your disapproval. This will continue to be a problem till you are able to face the wet bed in a neutral mind frame and not cause her to feel ashamed about the wet bed (I'm not saying you are specifically shaming her, but she must be picking up on your feelings.)

[Starflower]

My DD is almost 7. We use the store brand version of Good Nights. They keep the pee in very well. We also have waterproof mattress covers on all the beds just in case.

While it can be irritating, I can deal with the nighttime peeing. I am not even worried about it because we have a family history of it - my brother peed in his sleep until he was 13. DD's cousin peed until she was 9 - her mom used an alarm - yes it did work, but it took a long time. SIL ordered it online.

For our own situation, I just wish DD would stop having accidents during the day time. She has never been totally dry for any length of time and I am tired of laundry and the fuss. It's really hard not to get angry, but I know stress makes it harder for her. The pediatric urologist said she's just grow out of it, or if we did timed urination she would probably have it under control in a month. Well, DD doesn't want to do timed urination - it just led to more power struggles and her pretending to use the toilet, so we're just riding it out.

Hang in there, everybody!

[sewcool]

my son is 5 1/2 and also still wets the bed, his doctor recommended a test where they stick something up there and look around (i said no way)

anyway i don't say anything to him about it almost at all. I know he cant control it, ive asked him he said he thinks he pees while hes sleeping and i said "if you do wake up and have to pee would you try to go to the bathroom" and he said he would - i fully believe that. anyway i know its prolly annoying to some moms but you have to realize many times it is just something that they REALLY TRULEY cant control and I bet they are ashamed in a way. when my 2 year old started going to bed in unders ( i know abnormal) he started feeling crappy but we told him some kids just are not ready for a while. were all ok with it. i hope some people on here can help you understand its not something shes trying to do. don't punish her or get mad at her for it, I'm sure shes just as annoyed.

[minkin03]

my dd will be 7 in july and still wets the bed every night. we've tried just about everything. i don't make a big deal out of it b/c i don't want her to feel any more ashamed about it than she already does. her 4 yo sister hasn't wet the bed in almost a year. i think she's just a real deep sleeper and can't wake up.

just recently i bought a DHA gummy vitamins and told her they were special vitamins from the doctor that will stop her from wetting to see if that would work. she was so excited.... but so far it's been 2 nights now and no change. i just told her it takes a few days for it to work.

[Starflower]

Hylands makes a homeopathic remedy for bedwetting. I havn't tried it though since our main problem is during the day time.

[Aquitane]

Pumpkingirl71, I recently posted a thread about our treatment at the Enuresis Treatment Center.

DD is over 7 and has NEVER had a dry night. We had done everything, waking her up, homeopathic remedies, restricting fluids, Pull-ups, etc. What we learned at the Center was EXACTLY what eepster replied. We are learning that this is a sleep disorder.

Our treatment entails using an alarm at night, doing kegels, and our next step is "fluid challenges." We have been on the program for a little over a month. The first week/week and a half was grueling! We were up sometimes 3 times a night. In the last week, DD has only gotten up 3 nights, only once time each night. Also, she's catching herself. Instead of emptying her whole bladder, she's stopping.

Part of the treatment is trying to break them of their bad sleep patterns. It is amazing to see that when we think that DD is "up" at night, she really has no idea what's happening.

The treatment is very expensive (at least to us it is). We were just frustrated and tired, so we were willing to do practically anything.

[mama2toomany]

My kids go to bed a couple hours before we do. One of my ds wet the bed, Before I go to bed, I wake him up and ask him to pee, he does and it seemed to stop the bed wetting. We tried the alarms but he slept through them, and so did I.

[lnitti]

also, make sure you are using Goodnights (Huggies) or Underjams (pampers), or for a smaller kids, huggies has a night time pull up. Do not use regular daytime pull-ups, they are not absorbent enough for night time.