Originally Posted by BJewels79
Now to get DH to do the same! (thankfully he doesn't need to get rid of nearly as many
We went through a BIG purge/declutter before putting the house up for sale last fall. I couldn't get him to actually go through his clothes, so I ambushed him to make quick decisions.
I made sure we were totally caught up on laundry, then pulled out ALL of one thing and brought it to where he was. Faced with the reality of an obnoxious number of t-shirts, or hoodies, or coats or jeans or boots, he realized immediately that there were far too many. This was after several rounds of decluttering...but he was still stuck in the "but I spend $x.xx" on it. Plus, I think part of it is that even though his family is pretty solidly middle class income right now, he grew up pretty broke, and we've always had financial struggles...so he had a little bit of trouble parting with the STUFF that he'd worked hard to get. I went through that stage myself!!
Once he saw how many of that one item, he spent 10 or 15 mins going through that pile and got rid of probably 2/3 in the first round just by eliminating the things that didn't fit, or he didn't really like/wear.
It was less intimidating than facing the whole closet. I didn't influence the decisions at all. I just brought the pile to him and asked him to go through each item and decide keep or donate quickly...never mind if it's practically new, be realistic.
By asking him to make a limited decision on one type of item at a time, it wasn't time consuming. So I just had him do one or two piles each evening for a few days and by the end, he did really good. We sent a huge amount of stuff off to goodwill. He even drove them over for me!!
Also, I think facing all of one type of clothing at a time was helpful. Rather than deciding based on an individual item, he saw that he had several of the same type of item and he really didn't wear them all. It was very visual. (Esp when I brought him TWO LAUNDRY BASKETS of his shoes and combat boots!!!) :-D