Originally Posted by mckittre
Well, this question isn't really about reading or even gifted kids, but about teaching/quizzing toddlers more generally.
How do you read a small toddler books without quizzing them? And does it matter? My 14 month old loves bringing me books to "read" to him - except he often doesn't really want to hear the stories, and will often bring books with nothing but animal pictures in them. So I end up sitting with him and teaching him the sign language and sounds for the different animals, and quizzing him on the pictures (e.g. who's that? which one is big? where's the other mouse? etc...). He loves it, and knows dozens of animal signs (crude approximations anyway). And I don't know what else to do with those books. But I worry that this is just as bad as focusing on teaching an older toddler the words? Is there a better way to read with him?
My kid's not gifted so far as I know, so maybe this question doesn't belong here. But it seems like the folks on this thread have spent a lot of time thinking about the pluses and minuses of teaching and quizzing, so I thought I'd ask anyway.
When DD was about 1yo, she adored those kinds of books (we started with a few signing ones people gave us and realized the pages with all the different things kept her occupied and happy in the car). So we bought her a big book of words. It does seem like they make so many of those books to train kids into learning words or how to read those words? But DD just loves to sit and go through all of the pictures... and yes, she'd sort of quiz US and she did love us to quiz her back eventually... but mostly we would use it to jump off to other things like singing songs about the types of things on each page, telling stories, etc.
But she ALSO would sit for hours while we read "real" books like picture books with poetry or stories. That other kind of book was just for sometimes, when we were trapped on a plane (a trip with just her and me is why I bought it) or in the car. Although she LOVED to look at the kids' faces and see them hugging, happy, jumping, etc. And while we went to playgroup almost daily, she's our first and only had me around so why not let her look at baby/kid faces?
I hate how people were always quizzing her (and still do, especially strangers it seems, but back then it was everyone!). We tried to never quiz her ourselves, but we would play sort of I spy with the book, and follow her lead. It seems like quizzing is the only way some people know to interact with little kids. Colors, animals, etc. I don't know why, but it seems really common. But when a kid is asking to play it as a game, I have a hard time denying them that. But it's not like we offered any sort of rewards/reinforcement for doing it, so I figured it really was just her desire. This was the kid that around the same age was rehearsing words, like looking down at her apron and whispering it over and over again to herself, after having learned it, forgotten it, and heard it again. I guess some kids are born studious