Any moms co sleeping with their toddler sons

[MomofMusa]

I have a two year old who is the love of my life.. I started him co sleeping with me almost a yr ago.. His bed was too small. I never had a crib, just this convertable type thing my dear late mother bought me. He was starting to out grow it, so I put him in my bed. I've enjoy it, he thinks it's natural.

I just moved into a small one bedroom apartment, from a two bedroom duplex. My son never slept in that other room. I was chatting with my sister the other night and kind of felt bad.. She was assuming I moved into another two bedroom, when I clearly told her I was not way back. Well, she got real serious and said... He's suppose to be in his own room, I thought that's what you were moving into. I know a lecture was coming so I stopped it by saying. Oh, well.

I really enjoy having my son near me... I'm very protective and loving with and to my son. I tell him I love him almost everyday, I kiss and hug him all the time. I don't recall having a lot of affection growing up nor having my mom say she loved us, until we were adults.. My dad didn't understand it from childhood since his parents died when he was a little boy and he was kicked around. My dear mom wanted to hug and kiss us all the time, but my dad stopped her every chance she could get. Long story there. But, my mom loved us dearly and we knew it until the day she died. But because my father wanted all her attention and worked very well keeping her from giving it the way and times she wanted.. I grew up feeling insecure, not feeling the need for love or relationship until in my early 30's I asked God to get me out of this ice box I put myself in. My other siblings chose to spread their wings very early looking for it, I think...

I've had a co worker tell me I shouldn't let him sleep with me because, he's a male. She and her 11 yr old will co sleep, but she's states that female with female.

I'm asking those who been there, done that, or are there... How did/are you work things out, or how are you working things out in your souls. When did you wing your child and how are they?


I hope my post made sense.. It's way past my bed time...


Hugs and love,

[ssh]

The idea of not co-sleeping because your toddler is male is just silly. What about people who are nursing their male preschooler. The idea that there could be anything wrong with a parent sleeping with or snuggling their small child is off base and a sign something's wrong with our culture. 2 years old is still quite a baby and co-sleeping until your child feels like having his own space is completely normal. My DD co-slept with my DH and I until she wanted to sleep in her own bed in her room a few days after turning 4. We didn't even have a room for her until right before she turned 3. I was expecting her to be in our bed until about 5 or 6 but she was ready. My DD has no anxiety about sleep or issues about going to bed. She sleeps a solid 10 hours every night. I'm sure most of this is due to the fact that she moved out of the family bed when she was ready.

[BestMother]

Like all mother even i love to sleep along with my son...........

[IAMommy]

It is the most natural thing in the world to sleep with your baby, and a two-year old is still a baby. Our two-year old son sleeps with us and always has, and his little brother will be joining our bed any day now. Babies need that security of having mama or dada right there. He'll move out of your bed when he's ready.

If I were you, I would simply not discuss this any further with those who cannot handle it. It's none of their business. If your sister continues to bother you, refer her to Dr. James McKenna's website http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/ or browse through it yourself so you have ammunition next time she starts in.

Cuddle that baby!

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

my ds is 25 mths and sleeps with me i don't see why being male or female makes a difference they are still babies and like comfort and closeness co-sleeping brings.

[MomofMusa]

Originally Posted by IAMommy

If I were you, I would simply not discuss this any further with those who cannot handle it. It's none of their business. If your sister continues to bother you, refer her to Dr. James McKenna's website http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/ or browse through it yourself so you have ammunition next time she starts in.

Cuddle that baby!

Yup... I agree... And bless your heart for the site...


Hugs to all the moms here, your support really made me feel good.

Denise

[Jend1002]

Oh dear! I wonder what your coworker would think about me bathing with my son

I am glad that you are feeling supported! The fact that people think the way your coworker does makes me kind of sad.

[HappilyEvrAfter]

hiya! i have a 5.5yo that still co-sleeps with me. he has his own bedroom and can choose to sleep there, but has always slept with me.

there are many other cultures where the entire family sleeps together for ages.
i wish i had the study links for you....they're here in this forum somewhere.

i just don't talk about our co-sleeping with people whose ideals don't mesh. if it doesn't work for them then it just doesn't.

[BeanyMama]

Ridiculous! Co-sleep and cuddle and love on that baby. It's the best thing you can do for him. The power of touch is so massive, your co-worker probably simply doesn't understand.

My first two children are boys (7 and 4), they co-slept until about 3, then moved to their own beds. They still climb into our bed sometimes. They're great, well-adjusted kids if I do say so myself

[pianojazzgirl]

I think it's crazy to think that there's a problem with a mama co-sleeping with her 2 yr old son. But then I'm biased as I sleep with my 2 yr old son.

You've definitely got my support too mama! Take these wonderful snuggle-filled years while you can get 'em!

[Drummer's Wife]

I co-sleep and shower with my 3 yo DS. It never occurred to me that others would think it was odd based on his gender. Some people have weird sexual hang-ups, I guess. Male or female - it's a kid we're talking about - and my kid for that matter.
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[joyful mother]

Our 4 yr old is in our room and often in our bed. Sometimes he cuddles up to me, sometimes he cuddles up to dad! Our 2 yr old likes his own space always has. People make too much of gender with children.

I really don't discuss co-sleeping with people IRL.