Originally Posted by Amandamanda
ugh, im feeling really crampy. like AF crampy. i really hope thats not what it is.
the earliest i have ever gotten a pp AF back was 6 months. I would NOT BE COOL with it coming back at not even 8 weeks!
Ugh, I would be NOT COOL with that either! Yikes. It's bad enough with this lochia business tricking me every day into thinking "it's trickling to almost nothing" and then suddenly I have a huge gush of stuff and have to change my pad 10 times a day. I hope you're just having randomy post partum cramps?
Rhi - sorry about the white noise/ fussiness. We got a white noise machine, a pretty fancy one (I think $40 or $50 from Amazon) from our baby registry and I started using it even before she was born, as it helps US sleep quite a bit. It might be a good investment if you think she'll continue to want the noise.
Last night was our first night of "ohhh, maybe she's not some kind of magic no-fuss baby after all!". Which makes sense, since it was her one week birthday, but still sucked. I think it was mostly a little normal evening fussing (seems to be how it goes) and then her parents' bad reaction to it. I was trying to take a bath and DH spent like an hour trying to calm her down to no avail, which I was unaware of until he burst in like there was an emergency saying "she won't stop and I can't get her to calm down and you have to get out and feed her right now!!". Okay, bath destressing OVER. So I got out and fed her, crying myself now, and she was still fussy and not really hungry, so I put her in her vibrating chair for the first time... right after topping her WAY up full of milk... tons of baby barf spewing everywhere the moment she hit that chair. So we cleaned up screaming baby and chair, I fed her again (since she had just lost all that milk) and put her back in the chair thinking "it's gas". Instant vomit comet again. I think I see a pattern here... ?
This was all about an hour after I stupidly said, "she's asleep, I think she's going to take a nice long nap." HA!
Then we didn't know if I should feed her again, or if she was just fussy, or if she was gassy, or or or or... both of us felt really incompetent, exhausted, and freaked out. Finally we calmed down, I read the LLL book to confirm that spitting up can be just because of too much milk too fast, and once they spit up, they'll need to eat, so I fed her again and we did lots of breath-holding while we swaddled, patted, cuddled, sang, soothed, and walked. And then everything seemed okay. But then it was bedtime and I was afraid to do anything to nurse nurse nurse for a few hours so we didn't have another meltdown. So much for trying to work on our feeding and sleeping rhythm. AFter she fell asleep I was scared to fall asleep myself - ironically because I was so tired and didn't want to smoosh her - but, miracle of miracles, she slept in her cosleeper for the first time for an hour or more! Hopefully we don't have to both lose our minds with stress to exhaust ourselves again for it to work in the future.
Thanks for the carrier tips, I'm glad to know some kids like being in them for a long time cause I think it will be great to keep her with me but still be able to do stuff. I'm glad she likes her new swing but it's hard to leave her there for very long without feeling like I am being too passive of a parent.
Jenfl (I think it was you with the "almost left the house with no shoes" story, love it!) - I think you're right about the mirror! I keep almost answering the door with my boob hanging out, or at least my shirt pulled down to show the bra on one side. And in the middle of the night I've been so sleepy lately that I am doing things like trying to nurse her through the bra (which almost works, they get so sodden) or trying to snap the nursing bra snap to my nipple instead of the thing that holds it into place. There should be some kind of candid camera for moms of newborns!