I've been thinking about this a lot lately this week. I know I can't control anything, but DD2 just did Day of Silence and had a not-so-good reception from her private lesson teacher about supporting, "those kinds of people." 
DD1 is gay. Her and her girlfriend have been dating for 2/3 years now. I know, DD2, DSD, DSS (also gay) and DH know. As well as some other family members and 98% of everyone's friends. Ex 'knows', as in he hasn't said anything to DD1 but said something to me a few weeks ago about DD1 not being the first one to give him grandkids anymore.
I want DD1 to tell him. I know that he will love her unconditionally. But, DD1 is afraid of SM.
Quick background on their stepmom: She's a bigot. Basically, if their ideas are not the same as their own, she's against them. They do have family friends that are gay (DDs half siblings refer to them as their uncles), but DD1 is afraid to officially come out to her dad - because she would have to come out to stepmom as well. And having family friends vs. having a stepdaughter that is a lesbian are two different things. She is afraid of the teasing and mocking - all 'lighthearted' of course - that will follow.
Today DD1's girlfriend is with her in Vermont doing Relay for Life. I know that sooner rather then later (possibly even summer break) it's going to come up. And when it does, what can I do to help my daughter deal with the negative reaction from SM that is soon to follow?
DD1 is gay. Her and her girlfriend have been dating for 2/3 years now. I know, DD2, DSD, DSS (also gay) and DH know. As well as some other family members and 98% of everyone's friends. Ex 'knows', as in he hasn't said anything to DD1 but said something to me a few weeks ago about DD1 not being the first one to give him grandkids anymore.
I want DD1 to tell him. I know that he will love her unconditionally. But, DD1 is afraid of SM.
Quick background on their stepmom: She's a bigot. Basically, if their ideas are not the same as their own, she's against them. They do have family friends that are gay (DDs half siblings refer to them as their uncles), but DD1 is afraid to officially come out to her dad - because she would have to come out to stepmom as well. And having family friends vs. having a stepdaughter that is a lesbian are two different things. She is afraid of the teasing and mocking - all 'lighthearted' of course - that will follow.
Today DD1's girlfriend is with her in Vermont doing Relay for Life. I know that sooner rather then later (possibly even summer break) it's going to come up. And when it does, what can I do to help my daughter deal with the negative reaction from SM that is soon to follow?
