I wonder if I'm being unreasonable. There is a girl who I've been friends with for 5 years now. We have very different life paths (she is single, no kids), but we get along well. We usually get together approximately once or twice per month (dinner, hang out at her house, a walk or maybe a movie). But, we talk almost every single day through email/texting.
We both have been going through some hard times, and our daily chit-chats have been very important to both of us. Just for venting, but we also really support each other. We have totally been there for one another through many different situations. We also just goof around in emails sometimes, and it is fun.
3 weeks ago, she said her male friend was going to stay with her for the weekend to help her with some renovations. Well, he never left. He's still there. And she stopped chatting with me. I know the obvious answer is they have become romantically involved. However....
I have emailed her a few times asking what she's doing, asking if she wants me to bring dinner over, etc. She told me twice that he is definitely just a friend, and they are not romantically involved. Ok. I don't care either way. There's no reason to hide it...they are both single and they are both adults. When I text her in the usual way, she either doesn't respond or gives me a 1 word answer.
I know my DH would think it was funny if it were his friend, and wouldn't care at all. So I'm trying to figure out why I can't just assume she's having a wild time and not be irritated. But I have to admit it...I'm hurt. I can't believe she would just practically ignore me for 3 weeks for no reason. And if she IS involved with him, why lie to me about it? I sound like a stalker or something, don't I?
I don't mean to....I just hate feeling like my friend can't even be bothered telling me what's going on. Personally I would never do that.
We both have been going through some hard times, and our daily chit-chats have been very important to both of us. Just for venting, but we also really support each other. We have totally been there for one another through many different situations. We also just goof around in emails sometimes, and it is fun.
3 weeks ago, she said her male friend was going to stay with her for the weekend to help her with some renovations. Well, he never left. He's still there. And she stopped chatting with me. I know the obvious answer is they have become romantically involved. However....
I have emailed her a few times asking what she's doing, asking if she wants me to bring dinner over, etc. She told me twice that he is definitely just a friend, and they are not romantically involved. Ok. I don't care either way. There's no reason to hide it...they are both single and they are both adults. When I text her in the usual way, she either doesn't respond or gives me a 1 word answer.
I know my DH would think it was funny if it were his friend, and wouldn't care at all. So I'm trying to figure out why I can't just assume she's having a wild time and not be irritated. But I have to admit it...I'm hurt. I can't believe she would just practically ignore me for 3 weeks for no reason. And if she IS involved with him, why lie to me about it? I sound like a stalker or something, don't I?
I don't mean to....I just hate feeling like my friend can't even be bothered telling me what's going on. Personally I would never do that.
