On Sunday, I took DD to her father's for her weekly visit with him. Considering the fact that his last contact with me was a voicemail accusing me of being a lying ***** and promising to ruin my relationship with my daughter once she's old enough, I thought the exchange went swimmingly. We were polite; no harsh words were exchanged. DD happily ran into STBX's building, and he seemed very flattered by this.
I come back to pick her up 3.5 hours later, and just as I'm parking I receive a text from STBX saying that DD got "a bloody nose" at the playground but that she's ok and "resting". When he brings her down to me, she's covered in dried or drying blood, and to a certain extent, so is he. Her nose is caked with blood and she's totally mouth breathing.
Now, I understand that toddlers are rambunctious and that accidents happen, but when STBX explained that she face planted right into a little concrete wall divider, I thought to myself "um, weren't you watching her?". As bad as it looked, DD seemed fine and intent on playing some more.
Now, I didn't freak out and I didn't make a huge deal out of this, seeing as we are exactly a week away from going to court, and I see no point in creating more tension between us, especially in front of DD. STBX seems genuinely concerned and asked me to text him later on to tell him how DD was doing. That's all well and good, but...would you have been angry if you were in my shoes? He didn't even attempt to clean her up!
STBX only sees DD once a week for 3.5 hours, and every time she returns from his place, she's either starving, thirsty, dirty and she hasn't been changed. This time, she comes back to me covered in blood. Am I being a mama hen to be...pretty peeved at him about this?
I come back to pick her up 3.5 hours later, and just as I'm parking I receive a text from STBX saying that DD got "a bloody nose" at the playground but that she's ok and "resting". When he brings her down to me, she's covered in dried or drying blood, and to a certain extent, so is he. Her nose is caked with blood and she's totally mouth breathing.
Now, I understand that toddlers are rambunctious and that accidents happen, but when STBX explained that she face planted right into a little concrete wall divider, I thought to myself "um, weren't you watching her?". As bad as it looked, DD seemed fine and intent on playing some more.
Now, I didn't freak out and I didn't make a huge deal out of this, seeing as we are exactly a week away from going to court, and I see no point in creating more tension between us, especially in front of DD. STBX seems genuinely concerned and asked me to text him later on to tell him how DD was doing. That's all well and good, but...would you have been angry if you were in my shoes? He didn't even attempt to clean her up!
STBX only sees DD once a week for 3.5 hours, and every time she returns from his place, she's either starving, thirsty, dirty and she hasn't been changed. This time, she comes back to me covered in blood. Am I being a mama hen to be...pretty peeved at him about this?
that i would keep a careful eye out regarding the condition that she is in when she returns. there should be some effort made to have her cleaned up when she is gone at least. that is part of parenting. not just the pleasantries like hanging out at the park. 
to you for dealing with him.
