I want another baby!

[littlemommy18]

So I've been seperated from my husband for over 3 years now and I am having no luck in the dating department! If there could be a natural family dating website i would pay big bucks to join!! However lately I have got the baby itch and its bad. So what now? I guess I just have to wait for who knows how long to meet someone? This is just really bothering me! I guess it finally just hit me that I have to start my life all over again bc up until now I've been pretty content just being allowed to be who I am with no ones negative imput! Sorry if this is going on and on I was just wondering if I'm the only single mama who is having these feelings! Peace and Love to all!

[sunfish21]

My annulment was one month ago and largely due to my age (37) I am very worried about how/when another baby might be in my life. You can't be the only one worried about it. I already think that if I can get my finances in order, in a coupld of years I may be looking for a donor...

[organicpapayamama]

i was exactly in your shoes but didnt want to leave the fate of my possible children in the hands of chance. So I became a single mama by choice using a bank. I reasoned that I could live and be super happy with my kids and without a man but I wouldnt be if a man never came in the picture to have kids with. KWIM? its different for everyone I guess but that was my reasoning. I am now due any day now with my LO and its the best decision I ever made.

[JunipersMom]

I SOOO Hear you!! My first is adopted, second was through IVF - and now as 40 is creeping up I'm just dying inside! I've always wanted three - ever since I was little I knew I'd have three... my first two were soo hard and long to make happen -- I just ache sometimes thinking about it. I wish I could just easily get and stay pregnant - then I would totally start now on my own... but my history just isnt that simple.. Right now I'm trying to just be happy with my little family (my kids are only 5 and 2) and thinking my perfect partner will appear someday with maybe some beautiful children of his own ..

[LorenaAZ]

I know how you feel. I really want another child also. If you are serious about expanding your family (and don't have a man/don't want a man, etc.), go over to the "queer conceptions" subforum and read up on their experiences of sperm banks and fertilization. I actually looked into it and called the sperm bank most widely used over in that section and I think it came out to about $300-500. I told my mom I will be doing that after I finish my degree and move in with her.

[terran631]

I'm right there with you! I think I wrote your post about four months ago. I've been divorced for about 4 years. And I am living very comfortably now as a self-employed woman. My kids are 11 and 7 and I DESPERATELY have the baby bug. I'm only 33 but I don't want to wait too much longer. I gave myself a year. I need to drop a few pounds, save up some money, and give Mr Right another year or so to make his appearence. If he doesn't show up, I'm going solo. I'm extremely nervous about it, but pretty determined.

[Bad Mama Jama]

i've been on this bandwagon for quite a while and have my eye on one more. i hear you, mama. i do. and

[womama]

Baby fever!!!

I have it real bad.

Glad to hear there are other mamas feeling the same way.

[tnmom66]

I'll be 44 tomorrow and I wish circumstances were different and I could give my 18 month old suprise baby a baby brother. That would give me my fantasy family child makeup of 2 boys, 2 girls. Unfortunately, my fantasy family scenario didn't include divorce, stepfamilies, and out of wed-lock childbirth.

I know there are all kinds of families, but I am pretty "traditional" minded. I don't like being a single parent and I wouldn't do it on purpose.

I'm trying to be content with my circumstance--the 3 I have keep me plenty busy, but I do feel like I could bring one more into this world if God put things in order. If it wasn't for my surprise baby, I would have been content with the 2 great kids I had. I never intended to start over with a new baby at 42, but I do feel like mothering is the best gift God has given me.

[Pumpkin_Pie]

I am pretty sure I will be in a pretty good place to have a second within the next three years or so, but I am 36, so I am feeling the baby bug BADLY at this point too. I would LOVE to give DS a sibling, and I just want two little people to snuggle. I am on all sorts of public assistance right now, and feel like if I had another right now, the amount of judgement I would receive would be more than I can take. I just really wish I could meet someone who wants children within the next year or so. I have a pretty sure feeling that it just isn't going to happen though. Such a hard place to be.

[LoveOhm]

My feelings go back and fourth on this, there are times I think I want another baby...... and the reality is I do want another one BUT what I am really longing at this point and time is to expand and build my family by adding a partner.

So yes I do feel the baby itch but I know to be happy I want to have time to get my career established and have the time to build the type of friendship I would want in a husband. It takes time to build things and I am laying the foundation for an empire...... that includes a best friend (my future husband) and another baby of my own and maybe a bonus child too!

[grisandole]

I'm with you. I totally want another one but no male prospects, lol. If it doesn't happen naturally in a few years, I might go the adoption route.

[samy23]

Totally there!

My dd is 7 and I've been longing for a second child since she was about 4! Every year the urge seems to get stronger. Last year I finally decided to try to conceive using a sperm donor, I tried for 3 months but no luck, then decided to put it on hold for a while to give it more thought. (I way over-think everything) It's nearly a year later, and I think I'm ready to start trying again.

It's a strange place to be. I go back and forth about whether I should wait until I meet my future partner, or just do it now on my own. He's had 7 years since my dd was born to show up, and he hasn't so far...so what if it takes another 7 years? I really can't wait that long! Then the age gap between my dd and the baby will be even bigger than it already will be if I get pregnant this year (8 years), plus I might not meet my "mr right" until I'm past child baring age then it's too late! Gahhh!!

The question is, how long do you wait? *sigh*

I partly prefer being a single mom, doing it on my own etc, but I half think it would be better with a partner. At least if you know you don't want a partner you can just go ahead and get on with it knowing for sure it's what you want.

[Shanny2032]

Just wanted to say that I am SMBC and it is the best decision I have ever made. I got the best of a "man" without all of the heartache, dissapointment, custody issues and stress of one that all 3 of my sisters have to go through because they are no longer with a man they have children with. I know it isn't for everyone but I strongly encourage anyone who is thinking about it to look into using an anoymous donor to create or expand your family. I know you'd never regret it, but might you regret not having another child?

[SamiPolizzi]

I'm in this boat even though a lot of people would probably consider me too young to be. I'm 21. I know I have plenty of time, and there WILL be another baby in my future, but I don't want my DS to be 10 or 12 or 15 years older than my next baby. I want him to have a sibling SOON. But it's just not going to happen.

I'm also afraid I'll end up marrying the first guy who comes along and then end up being unhappy several years down the line. I've never had much interest in marriage until now, but now I'm looking at it as a means to an end. I don't really want to get married, I just want a baby! But I guess I've just never met anyone I could picture myself spending the rest of my life with. I really don't know if marriage is for me or not. I guess I'll just have to wait and see.

[NewDirections]

I just had a baby 2 months ago and I can't imagine not giving Babycakes a sibling. I really want another baby in about 4 years. I don't want to leave this to chance so if I don't get married again, I'll go with a bank

[timbbey]

Good luck to all of you! I would definitely go solo but my baby bug isn't all that strong at the moment, but I would have zero reservations if it was!!!!

[lindalu]

baby bug - me too!

Yes, I am writing on other threads about feeling desperate to be away from my H. At the same time, I feel beyond sad at the thought of not having another child. Which is crazy, because I never planned on children - had them later in life, etc. (Most people do not understand - I have a wonderful 4 year old boy and 2 year old girl - the "perfect family" according to most


My H and have so many disagreements on parenting - some of the time, at least. (Much depends upon his mood.) I know we should not have another child together. But, I am 43 - I know that there will not be enough time to have another baby WITHOUT him.

It makes me very sad. Being a mother is beyond incredible. I cannot imagine how wonderful it must be to share parenthood with the right partner. I am crying as I type this realizing that I will most likely never experience this.

Having said that, I really wonder what it might be like to be a single mom. It is becoming less scary to me than staying in a loveless marriage.

BUT - to answer your original post - I think whatever you are feeling is ok and normal!

[eccomama]

dd just turned 6 and i'm 35. i have had the baby fever for years and not sure what to do at this point. but i really want another baby, just not sure i want to go the solo route! if i dont find a partner i'll probably adopt in 1-2 yrs. i can't imagine starting out with a newborn where i live. it's too expensive and my job is too demanding...

[SamiPolizzi]

I'm bumping this thread because my desire to have another baby is particularly strong today. There has to be a way to get over it... right?